Back on the Balance Beam: First in State

So, my goal at one time was to write at least 3 times per week in this blog. I don't know if that's better or worse than it was when I was trying to write every night. (It's worse; it didn't happen. In fact, my blog fell apart for awhile I hate to admit). The problem with not writing all of the time is that, before I realize it, the week is half over and I haven't written a single post. My apologies one and all.

It's been a busy household around the Laing home this week, most importantly because Brighten had her State gymnastics finals this week. Only 72 gymnasts made it to State this year and she was one of those selected, even though it's only her first year as a gymnast; I'm not proud at all. Ya right. I couldn't be more proud.

The awesome thing, and the thing I wanted to mention today if nothing else, is that Brighten proved the point I tried making in my earlier post about the rewards of getting back up on that "horse" (or in this case, that balance beam).

Get this: in every meet this year, including Sectionals two weeks ago, she did well ... she placed, she won medals, she even got a handful of first and second finishes. But, the balance beam has continued to be elusive for her. She fell in every 2011 meet. However, as I wrote previously, she didn't let it get her down, bouncing right back up whenever she fell; in fact, at one meet she STILL got a 9.025, even with a fall (which is pretty unheard of). She never wasted time commiserating, worrying, or getting upset. [As I posted before, "it isn't just 'getting back up' that counts; it's doing so quickly, without wasting time or letting yourself get down, and stay down."]

So ... she fell during the beam event in every single meet ... except this last Saturday's. Our little girl, in her first year of gymnastics (did I already say that?), executed flawlessly and SHE TOOK FIRST PLACE IN THE BEAM! She won 6th overall--6th in the whole State--even with a stumble on her bars event (she did really good there as well, but tripped on a crack in the pad that wasn't taped down very well). 1st in Beam and 6th overall! Not bad for a little 4-foot nothing pipsqueak who didn't even know what a balance beam was not 13 months ago.

Obviously we can learn several different lessons from Brighty's example:

1.  When you fall or stumble, don't hesitate; get right back up.
2.  Every time you fail, learn ... grow ... get better; your day will come.
3.  Apply yourself if you want success (trust me ... Brighten spends more time on her hands and head it seems than on her feet these days; she practices on everything. Are you doing the same?)
4.  Have faith, keep trying and never give up. It isn't always easy but it's worth it.
5.  Find your passion--eat, drink and breathe it, and be willing to sacrifice to make it come to pass.

(These kind of all sound like the same lesson told 5 different ways; oh well ... it's late and I'm too excited to think straight).

You can see in the picture that SHE isn't proud at all either. Ya, right. She's bursting at the seams, as she should be ... and her ol' dad is too. Nice job, Brighty Boo. I'm very proud of you. You are an inspiration to us all.

Never stop soaring. I love you dearly.....

Daddy-Patrick

The Big Year: A Surprising Gem

I watched a movie a short while ago called "The Big Year" that I really enjoyed and I've been wanting to write a Triumph post about it. Though the critics' reviews have been mixed (it has a B- on Rotten Tomatoes), I found it entertaining, enlightening and also poignant in its own way.

It was entertaining because, with not just one or two but THREE comedic powerhouses starring in the film--Steve Martin, Owen Wilson and Jack Black--you could expect to be entertained, and they did the job well. The comedy wasn't slapstick or crude at all (despite the two younger headliners and their normal repertoires). It was tasteful and creative and pretty darn funny, I thought. It was also thoughtful; but I'll talk about that more in a minute.

The film was enlightening because it tells the tale of three "birders" (bird watching enthusiasts) who set out to outdo each other in the so-called "Big Year" race, an annual U.S. competition among birders to see who can view the most different bird species in a single year. Enlightening? Educational? Informative? It was all of these and more. I think I enjoyed it mostly because it was a subject I know little about, and the "Triumphant editor" in me of course enjoyed seeing how passionate many of the participants in the contest were. I came away with my eyes opened to a new and intriguing hobby (I actually found the whole sport quite interesting). And much of the cinematography they shot in the film was absolutely gorgeous, ranging from Maine to Alaska and everything in-between.

I also found the film to be poignant and thought provoking, primarily because of three main reasons in particular. First, I enjoy stories that remind us of how success requires focus and focus usually requires passion; the guys in the movie were certainly a passionate, if not borderline-fanatic, trio. Second, the movie reminds us that, even when tempted, we can't afford to abandon our values, even when competing or working toward a goal. It isn't good enough to "win" if we leave what's most important behind; Triumph, true triumph, demands a certain moral code, a code I'm pretty sure we're all familiar with. And then there's the third highlight, Sacrifice. I won't ruin the story, but suffice it to say, the movie does a good job paralleling life with their hobby / pursuit and reminding us of the costs that so often accompany our pursuits of excellence. It reminds us to be cognizant of all that's required, and ask if, in the end, it's worth it. Sometimes it is; sometimes it just isn't. Whatever the case, I know from experience that it usually isn't an easy, downhill stroll. Most things that matter rarely are. The movie, like I said, does an excellent job reiterating this point--the demand and the price that are usually required. I found it to be a timely reminder for myself and my family, and maybe the rest of you as well.

Anyway. That's about it.... I do recommend The Big Year, whether or not you're a movie buff. It's one of those films I could go rent and watch again, even tonight. It's, well ... it's different, but in a good way; I personally thought it was fantastic.

Here's to you ... whatever your hobbies, passions or aspirations are. I hope they too are entertaining, enlightening and poignant for you and yours and that this year has been your "Big Year" and that 2012 will be even bigger still. Best of luck and skill...! Patrick-Riv

Wintley Phipps: Amazing Grace

It's been a couple weeks since I last wrote in this blog. Can I just say ... OUCH! Time flies by when you're, let's see, co-parenting five busy children, launching a new Internet business, doing a F/T job, being under the weather a little and celebrating Thanksgiving all at the same time. My apologies to those of you who follow The Triumph Times daily / weekly and have been checking back for new material. It's amazing how fast the missed days can add up.

You should know that I've thought of you and the next few subjects I'm going to write on literally dozens of times--at least several times each day. I'm constantly running across new material, subjects, questions and topics. Hardly a day goes by without me thinking, "I need to blog about that." Isn't it amazing, if you really stop to think about it, how much TRIUMPH we're all surrounded by? I know, I know.... the economy stinks, unemployment is up, jobs down, not to mention spirits. I'm well aware of all this. But I'm not down and I hope you aren't either. So many of us are still persevering. So many of us are like the intrepid explorers, soldiers, adventurers and more of yesteryear, who stared into the eye of the storm or the enemy and said, "Give Us Your Worst. We Will Not Back Down, No Matter What You Try Throwing at Us, We Are Stronger Than You!"

As I look back on my own life, many, many examples come to mind of resilience for which I am very grateful (it is Thanksgiving week, after all). Three quick examples:

Dan O'Steen, a wonderful sales manager of mine with Trendwest Resorts many years ago, is a true gentleman who reminded me "people don't care what you know until they truly know you care." He also used to say, "you don't have to be high pressure to be highly effective." Dan, my hat is off to you. You're a great man, a great manager, and also one heck of a saxophone player (Danno's band, Blues Union, is simply amazing).

A second example that comes to mind is Dan's counterpart, Rick Winings, the Project Director of the Alaska TRI office. Among many things, Rick taught us that "if you're not enjoying life, if you're not making the most of every day and truly "sucking the marrow out of it," you're missing the point." I can still remember him, with his feet up on his desk, a glass of wine in his hand, telling funny stories. He's often say, "You're not getting any younger, Patrick." At 50, he's still a big kid, and I love it.

And then there's Mel Horowitz, a dear friend of mine who is practically bursting with enthusiasm pretty much every time you see him. In his mid-70's, he lives life to its FULLEST, staying healthy, keeping busy, pretty much loving every minute. Lately he's been selling loads of stuff on eBay ... last month he was working in a Costco Warehouse collecting leads for LeafGuard NW (the well-known rain gutter company). Mel doesn't need the money; he's retired many times over and is paying to take 45+ people on a Bahamas cruise tomorrow ... (his entire family + his ex-wife and her husband; how's that for Triumphing [over sadness / divorce]?) Mel, more than just about anyone I know, teaches me often how to "Triumph over adversity." His example is inspiring to us all.

Speaking of inspiring, I wanted to share with you a clip and story from another powerful example, Wintley Phipps, real quick. Whether you're Christian or not, religious or not, or even a spiritual person or not, it doesn't really matter. I think you'll be touched by his story and song.

Wintley Phipps is the founder of U.S. Dream Academy, Inc., a non-profit organization which helps children who have had a family member behind bars. They're doing some really neat things, helping these kids Triumph over their set of circumstances and thrive. If you'll watch the YouTube clip below, you'll see three things that stood out to me and probably others that will have a similar or even greater effect on you:

1. Did you know most African American spirituals are played using only the black keys of the piano? I found that very interesting. The haunting feel of an all-black-key melody is mesmerizing, and interestingly appropriate.

2. Wintley is a world-renowned vocalist and performs one of the most stirring renditions of Amazing Grace I've ever heard. (Did you know Amazing Grace is the best selling / highest grossing black spiritual of all time)? *

3. Lastly, did you know the timeless hymn, Amazing Grace, was written by a former captain of a slave ship, John Newton? His story is touching, and very aptly portrayed in the movie, Amazing Grace, starring Ioan Gruffud and Albert Finney.

Like I said, it doesn't really matter your background, your belief-system or your philosophy: you can't help but be moved by this man and his rendition of this song. I'm spiritual but not terribly religious, per se. I have faith, believe in a higher being, consider myself a good Christian, and try to do what's right ... but I'm not usually a big fan of the evangelic, "tent revival" type of worship. Be that as it may, this performance touched me deeply. I hope it does the same for you.

Mr. Phipps' mission, his message and his organization are impressive. You can learn more about them at http://www.usdreamacademy.org/. And Happy Thanksgiving, whoever you are.

Be grateful.....

River

Amazing Grace performance: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HfGytXRpfho&feature=youtube_gdata_player

P.S. I'm going to do my best to write at least 3 times each week, if not more, from here forward. This way, if I miss a day or two, it's not the end of the world. I might be able to put a little more meat into the posts as well. From the feedback I hear, folks seem to be enjoying them and I'm enjoying doing this. I hope you're getting a lot out of them.

I appreciate your reading. Please spread the word and come back and visit real soon. JPL

* Wintley Phipps has performed for American Presidents Jimmy Carter, Ronald Regan, George H.W. Bush, Bill Glinto, George W. Bush and Barack Obama at severl National Prayer Breakfast events and other distinguished celebrations. He performed for: the 1984]], and 1988 National Democratic Conventions, Rosa Parks' 77th Birthday gala at the Kennedy Center, Mother Theresa of Calcutta, and President Nelson Mandela. He has appeared on various programs such as the Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. television special, Dr. Robert Schuller's Hour of Power Telecast, the Billy Graham Crusades, at the Vatican, was guest soloist at Diana Ross' wedding ceremony in Switzerland, and on Saturday Night Live, Soul Train, and the Oprah Winfrey Show. He has also conducted lectures in Europe, Australia, Asia, Africa and North and South America.  

"Boldness Has Genius, Power and Magic In It"

I stayed up way too late last night trying to write about Abraham Lincoln, his Gettysburg Address and the timeless principle of "less is usually more." I struggled with the post (sometimes it just flows and other times it doesn't; kind of like life). I hope you enjoyed the write-up.

Tonight I'm going to try to go to bed a little earlier. As such, I'm going to follow Abe's example and try to stick to brevity in this evening's post. I promise only 1 or 2 "more lengthy" postings each week. In between, I'll try to share something like the quote below (I've always loved it). Even in quotes, less is usually more.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, the genius of modern German literature, penned the words:

     "Whatever you can do, or dream you can, Begin it.
     Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.
     Begin it now." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

A truer commentary on the "seeds" of Triumph there probably never was. There is so much opportunity and excitement and experience available to be had. It's just waiting for us; all we have to do is get started and then not easily give up. Half the battle is so often just taking that first step ... then another ... and then a few more, until you look around and realize you're already half-way up the hill.

I'll let you go for now. Just know my thoughts are with you and I am proud of your efforts.... 

Onward and upward, 

J Patrick "River" Laing 

A Lasting Principle: "Less is More"

I've spoken on this blog about leadership and courage. I've also mentioned brevity and how one of my personal goals is to learn to communicate, and live, more succinctly. I've come to believe that it adds little to the value of what we say or do when we wax verbose or long-winded in the process. It's a challenge for me, and for many of us, I think. "Less is more," though, or so they say ... but applying it in our lives can be challenging and elusive. (I once made a goal to keep emails I wrote to 100 words or less. It was tough; it was harder than just free-writing. I liked it, though, and I think folks appreciated it more; I may have to have a go at the goal again....).

Why is it exactly that less is usually more? How do we get there? I personally believe it's valuable in a lot of different areas: acquiring, consuming, even in our hobbies and our past-times. Lack of balance is rarely becoming; excessive behavior rarely leads to joy. We've all seen good and bad examples of this in our lives. The question is, are we learning from our own and others' experiences and mistakes?

"Less might be more" when our career or business is so demanding we find ourselves neglecting those most important to us. "Less might be more" when we spend too much time on the road ... or on the golf course ... or maybe at our favorite casino or fishing hole. Less is almost certainly more when it comes to more or less time with our kids (they say "it's all quality time to our children.") I really can't think of anything that counters this thought. Even less wealth or success may be desirable at times. (I can think of many high profile celebrities or entrepreneurs who would love to have the paparazzi disappear).

A bumper sticker I once saw echoes this premise: "You never see a hearse pulling a U-Haul trailer behind it." This concept applies both in life as well as in writing. Personally, I appreciate brevity and Hemingway's to-the-point approach, though I fall in the trap of Faulkner's more verbose style; it bothers me and is something I'm working to change. Hemingway's succinctness is a breath of fresh air and something I admire a great deal. I often tell my sales people to "take more out" rather than "add more in" (to their sales presentations). I need to follow my own advice. It's a better approach and a goal we should all seek after more in our lives.

One of the most memorable examples of brevity (and leadership) was given to us on November 19, 1863, the day Abraham Lincoln gave his famous Gettysburg Address. Just 1196 words long and it's one of the most famous speeches and documents of our time. And it is obviously to the point. It's actually a bit ironic, because Lincoln himself says in the speech that the world "will little note, nor long remember what we say here." He got that part wrong: the day and the document live indelibly in our minds.

The battle and President Lincoln's speech have long been remembered. The sacrifices that were made and the change in the war they affected were dedicated and consecrated by President's Lincoln's few short words. It did not take him thousands of pages to do it justice. He didn't wax long or eloquent trying to drive home his point. On the contrary, the simplicity of the speech is much of what helped to make it so strong. Extra verbiage would have muddied the water and likely detracted from the message. They would have tarnished the delivery, much like too much make-up or extra baggy clothing can often detract from an otherwise attractive woman.

I hope you enjoy the speech. I certainly did. I've read it before but it's been many, many years. I don't know if you've read it yourself or if it's been awhile as well. It's listed below in case you'd like to do so. It's short--less than 1,200 words, as I mentioned--yet powerful and unforgettable. It is quoted, referenced, remembered and revered. I've always loved it. This Friday last I was reminded of a couple of reasons why.

I won't go into details but suffice it to say that I was at my attorney's on Friday, finalizing the closure of a company I've owned and loved for the last few years. It's been 2 1/2 years since I started shutting it down following its demise due to the economy in early 2009. (Trust me: I speak from experience when I talk about resiliency and overcoming odds on this blog). So, I was reflecting on how hard I had worked at the business ... on all that it cost me ... and I looked up and saw the Gettysburg Address hanging on the wall; also this picture of President Lincoln. I was reminded once again that "less is usually more." More toys and accolades and appreciation or rewards will rarely add up to lasting peace and happiness in the end. In fact, on the contrary, I've found it is more often true that Triumph is missed when we inundate it with excess baggage. I hope to better emulate this truth.

It's late and I have certainly gone on long enough, exceeding Lincoln's address by several hundred words, even as I discuss the subject of brevity. Again, I'm trying to learn my own lessons.... Thanks for being patient while I figure it out.

Happy reading,

JP River


The Gettysburg Address: Four score and seven years ago our fathers brought forth on this continent, a new nation, conceived in Liberty, and dedicated to the proposition that all men are created equal. ~ Now we are engaged in a great civil war, testing whether that nation, or any nation so conceived and so dedicated, can long endure. We are met on a great battle-field of that war. We have come to dedicate a portion of that field, as a final resting place for those who here gave their lives that that nation might live. It is altogether fitting and proper that we should do this. ~ But, in a larger sense, we can not dedicate -- we can not consecrate -- we can not hallow -- this ground. The brave men, living and dead, who struggled here, have consecrated it, far above our poor power to add or detract. The world will little note, nor long remember what we say here, but it can never forget what they did here. It is for us the living, rather, to be dedicated here to the unfinished work which they who fought here have thus far so nobly advanced. It is rather for us to be here dedicated to the great task remaining before us -- that from these honored dead we take increased devotion to that cause for which they gave the last full measure of devotion -- that we here highly resolve that these dead shall not have died in vain -- that this nation, under God, shall have a new birth of freedom -- and that government of the people, by the people, for the people, shall not perish from the earth.

Even in Weakness: What's Your Excuse?

Yesterday's post was a proper tribute, I felt, to a young man who--even in weakness, even with a challenging disability (austism)--has chosen to adapt and overcome. He hasn't let his achilles heel slow him down. Instead, he's decided to Triumph over his affliction. It's a great reminder to us all of how we should not and cannot let life overwhelm us. All of the stories on this blog, the movies, books reviews, the people and examples, say the same thing: you can't beat us ... you won't get us down ... we won't let you kill us, no matter how hard you make it.

It's not easy. Sure, it's all well and good to talk about resiliency and achievement and principles like this when the skies are blue and the birds are singing. But, what about in the middle of the flood, when the rains are coming down, and your house is sliding into the creek? This is the time when our mettle is tested; this is the essence of our resolve.

What's great is that we are surrounded, even inundated, especially if we look for them, by examples that remind, inspire and encourage us to do the same. That's the whole reason I started this blog: I am amazed almost daily by the courage, strength and stamina of so many. They inspire me and make me want to do more myself, more to be courageous and strong.

Real quick, I want to share with you a movie clip from the recent block buster, Captain America: The First Avenger, starring Chris Evans as Steve Rogers [Captain America]. It teaches us a valuable lesson on how to Triumph even when we're not the strongest, smartest or most impressive in the bunch. Even when weak, we can still make a difference. I absolutely loved this scene.

The movie in general, I thought, was pretty well done. Like other Marvel Comic tales, it's a little superfluous at times, but the action was engaging and the filming quite interesting. Set in World War II, it's the story of a once-sickly soldier and his experience becoming Captain America, the "first super hero." What stood out to me during the film, and the reason I wanted to mention it here today, was a scene in which Colonel Chester Phillips, played by Tommy Lee Jones, and Dr. Abraham Erskine, played by Stanley Tucci, are debating over who will be the best choice for their Top Secret program, Project Rebirth. Colonel Chester sees only Steve's frail health and slight build and is still not convinced he's the right choice. Dr. Erskine on the other hand believes otherwise, convinced that the young private has the right stuff, the inner strength and character, they need and have been searching for.

So ... what is the right stuff, exactly? What is it, do you think, that really makes the biggest difference? Is it being taller, stronger, more handsome or charismatic? Is that what's most important? Dr. E doesn't think so and neither do I. He wants what he sees in Private Steven Rogers ... quiet, humble courage and commitment, not to mention unselfishness--three elements that show up in many of our Triumph Times examples. 

The question is answered and the movie line established when Steve , the "weakling," jumps on what he thinks to be a live grenade to shield it with his own body from his Army boot camp buddies. With zero thought for himself, he willingly sacrifices his own life to protect his friends, or at least he tries to. (Seems a recurring theme in our discussions as well, doesn't it ... the willingness to sacrifice our own desires for a greater good). The incident was actually a test to determine the merits of Steve and the rest of the bunch. The comparison between weak and skinny Steve Rogers and the others is even more pronounced when the other soldiers run or jump out of the way with little to no thought for anyone but themselves. 

Dr. Erskine teaches one of the most important lessons of all, when it comes to Triumph and success, when he says : "The weak man knows the value of strength, the value of power." Even in weakness ... even when we're afraid or overwhelmed ... we can overcome and stand strong. In fact, more often than not, it is in our weakness and humanity that we usually prevail. It's the stuff that Triumph eats, drinks, breathes and thrives on. It's the stuff most real heroes, in my experience, are made of.

I liked the movie. I loved this scene. Check it out at  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kO6qu5fQLHo.

Take care and thanks for checking in,

JP Triumph 

Here's the full Captain America movie trailer. It's worth watching. Enjoy!  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JerVrbLldXw

Autism and Authenticity: Jason McElwain

I'm in a bit of a current events mood lately, and this article and video clip (from CBSNews.com) tells of Jason McElwain, an autistic high school senior from Greek Athena High School in Rochester NY, and his Triumphant Day. It has everything I look for in this blog--emotion, inspiration, authenticity ... and Triumph, of course.

Some of my favorite movies of all time revolve around inspiring sports stories like Rudy, Glory Road, Hoosiers, etc. I have plenty of favorites but these are probably the Top Three. (If you haven't seen them, I highly recommend it).

We all love feel-good movies, well most of us do, and they don't get much better than this one about J Mac, as they call him. Stories like his tell of just not giving in to incredible odds. They're "David and Goliath" tales, in almost every instance, where success comes hard fought and only after great sacrifice, effort and sometimes loss. They are stories about individuals who pay the price asked of them, and more, who Triumph in the process, and who leave amazing legacies behind.

Here's the article that goes with the CBSNews.com news report about Jason. I'll let it speak for itself, along with the video linked below. You will easily see why I felt they should be included as today's inspirational post. I love these kind of stories, and this one is a good one. Enjoy. 

JP Triumph 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r93vABC1M7A&feature=related

(CBSNews.com)  It was the stuff of Hollywood, but it was real.



Senior Jason McElwain had been the manager of the varsity basketball team of Greece Athena High School in Rochester, N.Y.



McElwain, who's autistic, was added to the roster by coach Jim Johnson so he could be given a jersey and get to sit on the bench in the team's last game of the year.



Johnson hoped the situation would even enable him to get McElwain onto the floor a little playing time.



He got the chance, with Greece Athena up by double-digits with four minutes go to.



And, in his first action of the year, McElwain missed his first two shots, but then sank six three-pointers and another shot (video), for a total of 20 points in three minutes.



"My first shot was an air ball (missing the hoop), by a lot, then I missed a lay-up," McElwain recalls. "As the first shot went in, and then the second shot, as soon as that went in, I just started to catch fire."



"I've had a lot of thrills in coaching," Johnson says. "I've coached a lot of wonderful kids. But I've never experienced such a thrill."



The crowd went wild, and his teammates carried the excited McElwain off the court.



"I felt like a celebrity!" he beamed.



McElwain's mother sees it as a milestone for her son.



"This is the first moment Jason has ever succeeded (and could be) proud of himself," reflects Debbie McElwain.

"I look at autism as the Berlin Wall, and he cracked it."



His teammates couldn't be happier.



"He's a cool kid," says guard Levar Goff. "You just get to know him, get used to being around him. A couple of weeks ago, he missed practice because he was sick. You feel different when he's not around. He brings humor and life to the team."



Jason's next goal: to graduate.

  

Erasing Hate: The Triumphant Racist

This is an excerpt from an article written by Helen O'Neill on October 31, 2011.

I try to share current events and various news stories every now and then, especially ones like the following. This is an inspiring story of a reformed skinhead who chooses to endure agony to have his hate-inspired tattoos removed. It’s a great example of Triumphing over HATE ... or anything holding us back from living a full and abundant life. They say most hate is caused by fear and fear is brought on by ignorance. When we choose to look past our differences, get to know each other better, replace unfamiliarity with understanding and fear with appreciation, new opportunities unfold to us that are difficult to imagine. The whole world becomes a better place.

Here’s one Triumphant example of a skinhead-turned-father who, in his own small way, is helping to make it just that. The full article, if you'd like to read it, is posted on KSL.com at the following link: 

http://www.ksl.com/index.php?nid=157&sid=17882740&title=reformed-skinhead-endures-agony-to-remove-tattoos

  

Nice job, brother. My “tatt is off" to you.

J. Patrick Laing

Reformed Skinhead Endures Agony to Remove Tatoos

"We had come so far," she says. "We had left the movement, had created a good family life. We had so much to live for. I just thought there has to be someone out there who will help us."

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After getting married in 2006, the couple, former pillars of the white power movement (she as a member of the National Alliance, he a founder of the Vinlanders gang of skinheads) had worked hard to put their racist past behind them. They had settled down and had a baby; her younger children had embraced him as a father.

EDITOR'S NOTE: A reformed skinhead, Bryon Widner was desperate to rid himself of the racist tattoos that covered his face—so desperate that he turned to former enemies for help, and was willing to endure months of pain. [Second of two parts.]

And yet, the past was ever-present—tattooed in brutish symbols all over his body and face: a blood-soaked razor, swastikas, the letters "HATE" stamped across his knuckles.

Wherever he turned Widner was shunned—on job sites, in stores and restaurants. People saw a menacing thug, not a loving father. He felt like an utter failure.

Continued…..

On June 22, 2009, Widner lay on an operating table, his mind spinning with anxiety and hope. A nurse dabbed numbing gel all over his face. Shack towered over him in protective goggles and injected a local anesthetic. Then he started jabbing Widner's skin, the laser making a staccato rat-tat-tat sound as it burned through his flesh.

Widner had never felt such pain. Not all the times he had suffered black eyes and lost teeth in bar brawls, not the time in jail when guards—for fun—locked him up with a group of black inmates in order to see him taken down. His face swelled up in a burning rage, his eyes were black and puffy, his hands looked like blistered boxing gloves. He had never felt so helpless or so miserable.

"I was real whiny during that time," he says.

"He was real brave," says Julie.

After a couple of sessions, Shack decided that Widner was in too much pain: the only way to continue was to put him under general anesthetic for every operation. It was also clear that the removal was going to take far longer than the seven or eight sessions he had originally anticipated.

They developed a routine. Every few weeks, Widner would spend about an hour and a half in surgery and another hour in recovery, while Julie would fuss and fret and try to summon the strength to hide her fears and smile at the bruised, battered husband she drove home. It would often take days for the burns and oozing blisters to subside.

Shack and his team marveled at Widner's determination and endurance. The Widners marveled at the team's level of commitment and care. Even nurses who were initially intimidated by Widner's looks found themselves growing fond of the stubborn former skinhead and his young family.

Slowly—far more slowly than Widner had hoped—the tattoos began to fade. In all he underwent 25 surgeries over the course of 16 months, on his face, neck and hands.

On Oct. 22, 2010, the day of the final operation, Shack hugged Julie and shook hands with Bryon. Removing the tattoos, he said, had been one of his greatest honors as a surgeon. But a greater privilege was getting to know them.

"Anyone who is prepared to put himself through this is bound to do something good with his life," Shack said.

I couldn't agree more. Anyone who puts themselves through  challenging, painful or difficult experiences for a higher good deserves to be congratulated. I think Bryon definitely does. If you read this, your story is inspiring to us all. 

Thanks for your example. We won't soon forget it..... Most respectfully, JPR

Simple Truths: Dancing in the Rain

It's late and I've been busy working prepping a Quick Start Guide for one of my Internet ventures, One24. If you haven't taken a look at it, feel free to. You can learn all about it at www.timetotriumph.com. That being said, before I hit the sack I wanted to share with you a story I recently read. This is from another daily newsletter I'm subscribed to called "Simple Truths." I've seen very few stories of Triumph more inspiring than this. 

I hope you enjoy it. I'd encourage you to subscribe to Mac's free inspirational messages. I'll write more tomorrow. I appreciate your readership.

Night all ... JP Riv

Learning to Dance in the Rain

The date was July 16, 2008. It was late in the afternoon and I was sitting in my hotel room in Louisville, Kentucky. I was scheduled to speak that evening for the Kentucky Association of School Administrators (KASA).

I was a little "down in the dumps." I hadn't gotten to exercise lately because of my traveling schedule and recently I'd experienced some mild bouts of vertigo (that inner ear condition that can cause the room to start spinning.) You got it...speaking and "spinning" are not good partners!


My keynote presentation was scheduled for 7:00 PM, but I had been invited to show up at 6:00 to see a performance they said I'd enjoy. Little did I know that I was about to see something I would never forget.



They introduced the young musician. Welcome...Mr. Patrick Henry Hughes. He was rolled onto the stage in his wheelchair, and began to play the piano. His fingers danced across the keys as he made beautiful music.



He then began to sing as he played, and it was even more beautiful. For some reason, however, I knew that I was seeing something special. There was this aura about him that I really can't explain and the smile...his smile was magic!



About ten minutes into Patrick's performance, someone came on the stage and said..."I'd like to share a 7-minute video titled, The Patrick Hughes story." And the lights went dim.



Patrick Henry Hughes was born with no eyes, and a tightening of the joints which left him crippled for life. However, as a child, he was fitted with artificial eyes and placed in a wheelchair. Before his first birthday, he discovered the piano. His mom said, "I could hit any note on the piano, and within one or two tries, he'd get it." By his second birthday, he was playing requests (You Are My Sunshine, Twinkle Twinkle Little Star). His father was ecstatic. "We might not play baseball, but we can play music together."

Today, Patrick is a junior at the University of Louisville. His father attends classes with him and he's made nearly all A's, with the exception of 3 B's He's also a part of the 214 member marching band. You read it right...the marching band! He's a blind, wheelchair-bound trumpet player; and he and his father do it together. They attend all the band practices and the half-time performance in front of thousands. His father rolls and rotates his son around the field to the cheers of Patrick's fans. In order to attend Patrick's classes and every band practice, his father works the graveyard shift at UPS. Patrick said..."My dad's my hero."

But even more than his unbelievable musical talent, it was Patrick's "attitude of gratitude" that touched my soul. On stage, between songs, he would talk to the audience about his life and about how blessed he was. He said, "God made me blind and unable to walk. BIG DEAL! He gave me the ability ... the gifts I have ... the great opportunity to meet new people."

When his performance was over, Patrick and his father were on the stage together. The crowd rose to their feet and cheered for over five minutes. It gave me giant goose bumps!

My life was ready to meet Patrick Henry Hughes. I needed a hero, and I found one for the ages. If I live to be a hundred, I'll never forget that night, that smile, that music, but most importantly, that wonderful "attitude of gratitude."



I returned to Chicago and shared Patrick's story with my wife, my friends, and our team at Simple Truths. About two weeks later, I received a letter from a friend. He said, "Mac, here is a quote from Vivian Greene that I think you'll love!" "Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass... it's about learning how to dance in the rain!"



I thought...that's it! We all face adversity in our life. However, it's not the adversity, but how we react to it that will determine the joy and happiness in our life. During tough times, do we spend too much time feeling sorry for ourselves, or, can we, with gratitude...learn how to dance in the rain?



It almost sounds too simple to feel important, but one word...gratitude, can change your attitude, thus, your life, forever. Sarah Breathnach said it best...
"When we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that's present....we experience heaven on earth."



What I just shared is the introduction to my book, Learning to Dance in the Rain...The Power of Gratitude. My co-author is BJ Gallagher and she is one of the most talented and creative writers I've every known. It was an honor to work with her on this beautiful book that can truly change the way you think about life.



Keep dancing,



Mac Anderson
Founder, Simple Truths

From Cancer to Kung Fu

Today I thought I'd do an update on some recent Triumph Times posts:

>  My grandfather, Bill, is still holding strong. He has terminal cancer as I've said, he's in a great deal of pain, but he almost seems to be growing stronger every time I see him ... it's like he's actually transcending the trial he's undergoing. He is determined to stay himself, to keep smiling, to keep serving others, and to "keep his chin up," as he puts it. Right to the end, he is Triumphing. Right to the end, he is an inspiration to us all.

>  My daughter Brighten just won 5 medals in her meet on Saturday, including 3rd overall for the meet. She's placed several times in the last 3 meets, she's headed for Sectionals and, possibly, the State finals after that (they only take the top 72 gymnasts but she's got a good shot, according to her coach, even though she's only in her first year as I've mentioned). I couldn't be prouder.


You know, she fell again on her balance beam routine, but she jumped right back up and did the rest so well she still scored a 9.0 ... even with the fall. That's almost unheard of and it's a great tribute to not only "not giving up" and "getting right back up," but, also, doing so quickly, not hesitating or commiserating when it does you no good.

Think about it, if she had gotten frustrated, had thrown up her hands or even slumped her shoulders (technically speaking) for even a moment, she would have likely lost more points and probably not placed at all. Instead she gave that extra "Umph" she needed, she didn't let disappointment get her down, and she won 3rd place. It was a great Triumphant reminder that applies not only in sports but many areas of life.

>  And then there's writing and writers: I've written about Hemingway, Faulkner and Allie Hanley, etc. I've been writing this blog here since the 12th of October. Since that time, I've had people practically coming out of the woodwork saying how much they enjoy it. They're enjoying the writing, from what they say, and they're grateful to Allie for her "kick in my kiester." Today? I'm hoping for more [in blog] comments--what do YOU want to see and hear more of herein--but, through Facebook and email I'm hearing lots of great feedback. There seems to be a real hunger for this kind of motivational material. I've even had a couple parties contact me about full-time writing jobs. We shall see but it sounds like fun....

>  As I highlight different "Umphers" here at The Triumph Times (those Triumphing over their lives and their challenges), I would be remiss to not mention my good friend, TV / movie producer, Russell Cunningham (of RLC Motion Pictures in Sydney, Australia). Russell is an American producer now living Down Under with his Aussie sweetheart, Colleen. He recently produced a movie called Birth of a Warrior starring Tonny White, the youngest kung fu master in the world (Tonny was trained by the same grand master as superstar, Bruce Lee). For less than most of us have spent on our first home, and maybe our latest car, Russell and his team scraped the movie together from start to finish--a Triumph in and of itself.

They did this in an economy that has decimated the Australian movie industry; they did it following the loss of two, previous fully-contracted films (a half-a-million dollar loss combined, directly related to the economic crash); they attracted Tonny White to the film and got additional talent to donate their time and efforts and names; the list of "Triumphs" goes on and on. Through it all, Russell has stayed strong, weathered the storms, believed in his team and worked to make the project, albeit a small one, come to pass. He continues to beat the odds; he continues to be a perfect example of Triumph. (If you knew him, you would know that quitting just isn't in his nature. But it hasn't been easy, as he will tell you, and he isn't finished yet).

If I had to guess, I'd say ... keep an eye out for Russ. You're going to see more of him and RLC Motion Pictures in the future, I'm sure. He's a talented producer with a real vision and passion for his work. These are both, of course, prerequisites if you want a truly Triumphant life. You take your licks ... you keep going ... you follow your passion (even when it's hard) ... and you stick with it. In short, you follow Russell's example. Do so and you will rarely go wrong.

I'm proud of you, Superman, and I look forward to many more to come ... films, stories, awards and Triumphs. Birth of a Warrior probably isn't going to win any Oscars anytime soon ... but, your effort and commitment should. They're an inspiration to us all.

Keep filming. We'll keep watching.

Just one of your fans,

JP River

Birth of a Warrior trailer:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JHDhjWhPlx0&feature=related

Tonny White demo film:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QJrGUQu1nI4

RLC Motion Pictures site / movie:  http://rlcmotionpictures.com/

John C. Maxwell on Transformation

    

I'm subscribed to a daily coaching service with a successful speaker and writer I enjoy, Mr. John C. Maxwell (http://johnmaxwellteam.com). He sends out a daily "Minute With Maxwell" message that shows up in my email each morning and always starts my day out right. He's considered one of the most respected speakers in the world and has written over 60 books and sold 20 million+ copies worldwide. I think it's safe to say he has a thought or two that are worth hearing. I've certainly enjoyed his insights.

I've wanted to share with you one of his "Minutes" and today's seemed like an appropriate choice. He's speaking about "Transformational Leadership," talking about how a transformational life (one we've been referring to as a Triumphant one, I think it's safe to say), a life without regrets, all starts with a choice to change. It really all begins with the choices that we day in and day out.

It's not rocket science, but it is a good reminder. John then goes on to share a great idea for how to effect change in our life. I think you'll appreciate it.

My recommendation would be to click on both links ... his main site (above), so you can "meet the man" and sign up for his daily minute, if you'd like to, and this last site (below), so you can hear this specific thought on transforming. Both are worth the sixty seconds they will take you. I've been personally enjoying his counsel for over a year now.

If we're not growing we're dying ... if we are not changing, we're probably growing stale. I hope we aren't.

Onward and upward,

Patrick-Riv

http://www.johnmaxwellteam.com/transform/

    

Confidence: the Stuff of Triumph

Confidence: the stuff of heroes ... the secret of kings ... the essence of champions ... the trait of true leadership. What is it exactly and where does it come from? Are we born with it, or is it acquired? Can it be developed, or is it discovered? Any thoughts, readers? What do you think confidence really, truly is...? Does it exist, like the picture suggests, purely because and when we believe that it does?

Lots of questions but I think they're important ones in any discussion of personal Triumph. We've all seen those men and women who seem to exude confidence--it seems to almost ooze from their pores. In my experience, it's a mystery. Why do some have it and others don't? Why do some of us struggle while, to others, it comes so naturally, so easily, it seems? It's an age-old question.

For some, confidence is consistent, at other times it's fleeting. Sometimes it's a facade, a wave, a ripple moving like a tiny fishing ship tossed at sea. Other times, it's real and strong and seemingly immovable, like a giant sequoia tree in the deepest forest. As we know, both get blown by the wind, even ravaged at times, but one isn't moved and the other one is, and maybe even drowned; we've all experienced this. Even the most confident of us, at times, feel vulnerable, shaken and alone. And then, we're strong again, confident.... It's bizarre, a good question, a good topic for discussion. And then, I ask you, at the same time, isn't vulnerability and worry, in certain ways, an asset or a strength as well? Isn't it a sign of true confidence to admit when you are human, wavering or weak? Isn't this the essence of strength ... to be honest in your weakness, to admit when you're not perfect but, rather, to be human, authentic, accessible and real?

Lots of great questions. We all want to be confident and I think we all can be, in our own personal ways. One man's confidence is another man's weakness. One may seem arrogant. Another may seem too subdued. I think, ultimately, it doesn't really matter: it is for each of us to decide if our brand of confidence makes us happy and if it's moving us in the direction we desire. If it is then it's sufficient. If it isn't, then we need to keep trying. As long as we are okay with ourselves or, at least, okay with the person we're becoming, then we're good to go. We can sleep well at night and wake prepared for what life hands us. We can Triumph over it all. No other opinion matters nearly as much as does our own.

Another bit of good news is that, regardless of how we currently may see ourselves, we can improve upon that perception and that preparation and situation, and do so all the rest of our lives. We're rarely stuck in the process of progression. We never have to be satisfied with the status quo, who we are or how we act or interact today. We can get better, little by little, if we truly desire ... and this is the essence of how we Triumph over life: we never lie down. At the same time, it's okay to be at peace with who we see in the mirror, to love ourselves, if we do ... and to be pleased with the person we've become and are unveiling. It's a Triumphant "balancing act" of sorts, but one that is important we each define. When are we good enough? When are we strong enough? When is it okay for us to relax and stop trying so hard? Answer that question and we'll find more satisfaction and joy than we probably thought possible. We'll feel more sure, more peaceful and, ultimately ... more confident, and that, my friends, is rarely a negative thing.

I'll stop talking now. It's late. Please ... share your thoughts. When do you feel most confident? What have you found that helps you get there? What, in your own life, has helped you develop greater confidence, and courage? What do you suggest the rest of can do to get there in our own separate ways? Please share with us your insights and ideas.

Thanks for listening. I appreciate "the shot in the arm" your ongoing readership provides.

Ever more wise and more confident,

JP River

Quotable Quote: Dr. Seuss

I love this quote from Doctor Suess I saw recently on Facebook. It SCREAMS Triumph. Troubles...? Trials...? A topsy turvy Life...? Bring them on for we are ready and will not shrink with the dawn.

Thank you, Doc....

JP River

‎"I learned there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead, others come from behind. But I've bought a big bat. I'm all ready, you see. Now my troubles are going to have trouble with me." -- Dr. Seuss

"Get Back on that Horse" (or Balance Beam)

This blog on Triumph wouldn't be complete without a nod to my youngest daughter, Brighten, aka Beepster (short for Beautiful Princess Star). Let's just say, she is a powerhouse, a mighty might and takes after her mom in the sense she’s driven and doesn't give up easily.

Brighty is in her first year of gymnastics and, although she's a novice, she's taken to it like a fish to water. Not only does she have the perfect build—she's tiny with big feet—she seems to have a knack for it, a passion and a love of all things gymnastic. She’s winning lots of medals and just qualified for sectionals. Most important, she’s having fun. Maybe she’s found her calling...? I hope so.

You know, seeing her routine brings to mind a lesson on success I once heard that referred to the “Three P’s of Success” … Passion, Practice and Persistence. These are the essence of our diminutive daughter these days ... and anyone, I believe, who is Triumphing at what they do.

First, they’re Passionate (Brighten definitely is; she basically eats, sleeps and drinks gymnastics, and never seems to tire of it). Second, they Practice (no joke, she spends more time upside down these days than she does right side up; she’s constantly bouncing off the furniture, cartwheeling down the aisles, etc.). Third, they’re Persistent (you’ll see in the video clip attached how persistent she is, even when she falls, she bounces right back up). It’s an inspiring reminder for us all.

In gymnastics as in life (or marriage, business, trials, etc.), we mustn't give up … even when it’s hard. Other than those rare times when it’s just not in our power, we have to “get back on that horse,” or, as it were in this case, on that "balance beam."

I’m proud of you, Tiny. You’re an inspiration to your old dad. We’re looking forward to the college scholarships I’m sure you’ll earn (here's hoping). That only leaves four others we have to be worried about.

Onward and upward,

Daddy-Patrick 

Check out the clip. Her form looks just about perfect to me, even in failure. You go baby-girl! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5BcIvHtqm08