tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-82497560142864591342024-03-13T04:20:01.404-07:00The Triumph TimesThis blog is about Triumph--resiliency, achievement and success. Many of us want to make a difference in the world, and this blog helps deconstruct this topic. What is it that makes one more driven, resilient or adaptive than another? What separates the wheat from the chaff? Together, let’s dissect the mystery and understand it better. May we all move beyond mediocrity and Triumph more in all we do. Welcome to the "Umpher" family. Enjoy the journey.... J. Patrick "River" LaingThe Triumph Timeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10256997292616226973noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8249756014286459134.post-42676111970182612752012-09-05T22:28:00.002-07:002012-09-06T00:06:08.688-07:00The Epitome of Triumph: My Hero<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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You know, there a lot of different kinds of Triumph in the world. Successes in business, kids doing well in school, disabilities being overcome and challenges being challenged. We see examples every day: inspiring stories / people / programs and marriages that--despite the odds--keep surviving and even beating the odds. The list goes on and we've touched on many of these in The Triumph Times. We all have experienced, observed and likely participated in our own share.<br />
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What I've learned in my own life, especially this past few years, is that few Triumphs are cut-and-dried, black and white, simple or "cookie-cutter clean." Most are steeped in trial and pain, frustration and disappointment, struggles, set-backs and a large dose of growing and learning. That has certainly been the case for me. This past year has been one of the toughest and also one of the best in my 43 years. It's been a year of highest-highs and lowest-lows. It's been a period of heart-ache, heart-<i>burn</i> and many different happinesses blended into one. It's been a year of Triumph--a year of growth and reflection, adjustment and adaptation. In many respects, it's been a year of "reconnection" and, at the very least, a year I'll not soon be forgetting.<br />
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<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-p0MS4ROO-1k/UEgs3waROKI/AAAAAAAAAUk/gK0M41rKQis/s1600/IMG_2674.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-p0MS4ROO-1k/UEgs3waROKI/AAAAAAAAAUk/gK0M41rKQis/s320/IMG_2674.JPG" width="238" /></a>Speaking of reunions, I wanted to announce (if you haven't heard already) that I got remarried on March 17th of this year (2012)--Saint Patrick's Day! To make a long story short, my best friend from a decade ago, my former fiancé that "didn't work out" the first time around, came back into the picture and she and I reconnected late last fall and over the holidays (2012). We reignited the spark that first saw light many years ago. We "re-began" a journey we both have missed, even in silence, for a long time now.<br />
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Her name is Tessha, formerly Tessha THOMAS, and she'll tell you that ten years ago she thought we were just "postponing" our engagement--"putting it on hold," as it were, while she finished her last semester of college. I thought we were breaking up (I'm a little bit slow sometimes....). It was a pretty big breakdown in communication, to say the least. But, as a result, I went on to marry Emily, my former wife and the mother of my children, and stayed married for 9 years. I became a dad to five great kids, for which I'll always be grateful. When Emily and I divorced, Tessha and I reconnected. And now? We're married<i> ...</i> and we even got married on St. Patrick's Day (imagine that). :0) I guess what I'm saying is, the Lord works in mysterious ways. I never imagined us back together again--but here we are and we're very happy to be here. We're grateful to have finally "figured it out," even a little later than we originally planned.<br />
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She is triumphing over 10 years of loneliness, confusion, and in many ways, regret. She's forgiving and forgetting and moving forward, in faith. She's getting to know my children and doing an amazing job serving them, figuring them out and trying to love them each in their own way for who they each are. She's Triumphing over the challenge of it all, and the complexities inherent therein. She triumphs, in my mind, every time she seeks to serve, work well with and get to know my ex wife. Their dynamics and relationship, like any blended family, are a work in progress and can be challenging at times. But, I'm impressed with both of them and especially Tessh and how she / they are learning to work together, compromise and communicate well.<br />
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Tessha's really great. She is the most loving, most selfless, kind and patient person I've known--and not just with me and the kids, but with everyone she meets. Every time I turn around, it seems, she's serving someone, thinking of them, helping <i>others </i>to Triumph over what they're going through. Whether it's a friend of ours with heart problems or another who just lost her husband; whether it's her dad and his health or her mom and her burdens ... or <i>total strangers</i> who just need a friend, a guide, a comforting word or a morsel of bread ... Tessha just serves them and reminds me of what <i>true </i>Triumph means--"Triumphing" over selfishness, pettiness--basically, anything that gets in the way of true, unconditional service. She's a great example to me, not only of Triumph, but also of Truth. She's as authentic, as genuine and as honest, as they get.<br />
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Okay ... so, I'm probably sounding too sappy, too personal, so I'll stop. I just wanted you to meet her. The eldest of 10 children ... my best friend ... a great "bonus mom" to my kids: she is the primary reason these last 12 months have had their share of "ups" along with the "downs." I really think she saved me this past year, in many respects. I just wanted her to know how much it's meant and how much she and all of it continues to mean.<br />
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Here's to Triumph.<br />
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This last week marked the "end" of an incomparable legacy of service, strength and character. My grandfather, Charles William ("Bill") Laing, of whom I've written previously, finally "graduated" peacefully and passed away August 9th, 2012. We celebrated his life at a beautiful service last Monday that was both touching and inspiring. It was a perfect reminder of a man who spent his whole life quietly triumphant--my biggest hero and idol (next to my dad, of course, Grandpa's eldest son, which makes sense if you think about it; they're cut from the same cloth, as anyone who knows them will attest). </div>
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I won't make this too long but I did want to quickly reference a thought one of my uncles shared during his tribute to Grandpa at the funeral. He spoke of George Washington, the first U.S. president, and compared him to my grand dad, speaking of Grandpa as the "father of our 'nation,'" our "Laing Family Nation." He went on to mention several ways in which George Washington was key to the success of this country. We refer to GW as the Father of our Nation, with good reason. My grandpa, Charles William, embodies the same characteristics. Here are 3 examples of many, 3 ways in which made an impact and so deservedly enjoy this title of respect. </div>
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1. <u>Example</u>: George Washington led by example. He didn't just talk about standing up to the British. He didn't just stand on a soap box and preach against taxation without representation. He led, suffered, and overcame together with his troops. His was "faith in action," not just rhetoric or indignation. He was a great leader but perhaps the best thing he did, as most Umphers do, was lead by example. He "Did," he didn't just "Talk." As commander in chief of the Continental Army, he wasn't afraid to get into the trenches and get dirty when he had to. The nation showed him their thanks by electing him unanimously as our first U.S. President in 1788 and naming our Capitol and the State of Washington after him; he served for two consecutive terms. </div>
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2. The second way George Washington made such an impact, in my opinion, as did my grandpa, was with their <u>faith</u>. We've all heard stories of GW praying with his troops, of humbly petitioning help, and of him turning to the Lord for guidance in the face of their almost insurmountable odds. One of my favorite GW prints hangs in our home--the picture above--of him praying in Valley Forge by his horse. I just love the imagery, and the message. George Washington reminded us that we are watched over by and dependent upon, as he saw it, a Father above--one who had a literal hand in the establishment of this nation, where freedom of religion, speech and so many others could finally exist.<br />
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As one of our nation's founding fathers he helped draft the Declaration of Independence, and set up a nation FOUNDED upon the lasting principles espoused therein. True, we've strayed from them in ways, today. But, GW and his compatriots gave us the roadmap, the "blue print," for success. George Washington knew that faith in God and adherence to his principles was and needed to be at the very heart of our nation's success. My Grandfather Bill taught his family the same things--and his six boys and one daughter have passed those principles along to me and all the cousins, grand children, great grand kids and (just recently) one great-GREAT grand daughter baby girl. We continue to benefit from his example. </div>
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3. The third way I feel George Washington--and my grandfather, as well--led so valiantly throughout both of their lives, was by <u>speaking up</u>, by bearing witness when they could and by sharing their convictions whenever the opportunity to do so presented itself. President Washington obviously did this--he spoke out against tyranny, he helped draft the Declaration, he stood up for what he knew to be good and true and right. He never backed down, and he inspired a nation in the process. That, more than anything, I believe, is the mark of an Triumphant leader. Not only do you lead by example, not only do you do the right thing--but you inspire OTHERS to do the same, to FOLLOW your example, and to "take up arms" with you if they must. A truly Triumphant leader is just that--a LEADER, a mentor, someone who inspires you to follow ... a leader who through his or her examples inspires you to live your life the same way.<br />
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<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-hTsgsKnxGsA/UDrDh5joFrI/AAAAAAAAATU/vjJp_A-hB3c/s1600/IMG_5069.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="298" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-hTsgsKnxGsA/UDrDh5joFrI/AAAAAAAAATU/vjJp_A-hB3c/s400/IMG_5069.JPG" width="400" /></a><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-6MSaXbTZ29g/UDrDetbUaGI/AAAAAAAAATM/0tC9xoM6kKE/s1600/IMG_5052.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><br /></a>My Grandpa Bill did this same thing throughout his life. And he did so very quietly. He didn't need a bull-horn or a soap box. He spoke and people listened; even in a whisper, even in his last few hours, after cancer had ravaged his body. It's hard to explain, but you couldn't help but <i>want </i>to stop and pay attention to him, whenever he spoke. Now, I obviously never knew George Washington the way I knew my Grandpa Bill, but I can imagine that he was much the same, a man who caught your attention whenever he spoke or even walked into a room. He didn't demand your respect; people just gave it to him, freely. You knew you could trust him, that he had your best interest at heart; you knew he could teach you and mold you into a better man or woman, or country. And he did exactly that.<br />
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Obviously, I'm guessing here. I didn't know GW though I've studied his life and have continually been impressed by the example and the legacy that he left. And, it is a legacy that continues to shine forth as a beacon of hope to the world to this day. My grandpa's legacy, though not nearly as vast or well-known, shines brightly as well, with a family of well adjusted, contributing, and decent descendants dotting the globe. We too have been touched by him and we too are overcoming ... his legacy lives on, and I will be ever grateful to be a part of it all.<br />
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Thank you, Grandpa. We'll never forget you. We ARE you, and we're truly grateful every day.<br />
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Thank you for listening and my apologies for how long it's been since I last wrote. A divorce last year, a new marriage this year, a new position at work, two funerals and five busy kids. As I'm sure you understand, time gets away from you.<br />
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The Triumph Timeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10256997292616226973noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8249756014286459134.post-65106663971087163212012-02-16T21:04:00.000-08:002012-02-17T08:50:47.746-08:00"Extremely Loud & Incredibly Close"<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-YWi1KGPF0kA/Tzyf2v5nd8I/AAAAAAAAASk/zOQUWQgIscA/s1600/extremely-loud-incredibly-close-movie-poster-final.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-YWi1KGPF0kA/Tzyf2v5nd8I/AAAAAAAAASk/zOQUWQgIscA/s320/extremely-loud-incredibly-close-movie-poster-final.jpg" width="216" /></a>September 11, 2001: it's a day none of us of this generation will forget anytime soon ... our own Pearl Harbor, and right in our front yard--New York City. I can still remember sitting on the couch that morning, watching the news, barely breathing, practically motionless as I listened to the reports, shocked that it was actually happening here in the U.S. of A.<br />
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I was in Anchorage, Alaska that day ... a whole continent away. The whole day left me speechless, reeling and (like most of us) very much in shock. Even with all I felt and experienced, I can hardly imagine what it must have felt like to be a resident of New York that day. Our hearts--those of the whole nation--went out to our brothers and sisters there, and still do. I still marvel and wonder, considering the burdens I'm sure they carry, and probably will for a very long time to come.<br />
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Triumph is so often an difficult and cathartic experience, whether it's the positive kind (like achieving a success) or the more trying kind (working through a tragedy like this). My own opinion is that both kinds of triumph are positive because both bring about change and growth; both initiate coming to know ourselves better. I think that's why most of us love coming of age films, underdog movies and dramas or tragedies that end up inspirational in the end. "Extremely Loud & Incredibly Close" was all three of these for me. It made me appreciate more all that New York and its citizens have gone through, on a much deeper level. It also made me look at grief and the grief process differently as well, I think. It helped me understand Triumph on a whole different level as well. I think the film made me more sensitive in ways. What can I say but that I'm very grateful I saw it.<br />
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Enjoy and here's to LIVING LIFE, the good days <u>and</u> the bad days, "Extremely Loud & Incredibly Close!"<br />
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I'm going to make this post short because I'm running out the door to go teach a training class to a bunch of Jacuzzi walk-in bathtub reps here Dallas, Texas. In the last 3 weeks I've been in Denver, Austin, Chicago, Dallas, Little Rock and of course home in Portland, Oregon to see my kids between each trip. In the next 3 weeks I'll be in Portland, Seattle WA, Indianapolis, Atlanta, DC and ... who knows where else? Needless to say, I'm racking up the air miles. And, you know? I'm enjoying the solitude, the time to myself, to write, the seeing new places and meeting new people. I'm enjoying the TRAVEL, though I do miss my kids and miss seeing my girlfriend. It does wear me out every few days or so. </div>
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Like I said in my last post, Emily (my "former wife") and I are getting along pretty well ... the children are doing great ... my job is going well and I'm dating [once again] my sweetheart from over a decade ago. That couldn't be going better (my 5 year old said to her the other day he wants her to "be ours step mom someday." [sic] She liked the thought.... :0) The kids really seem to like her a lot. We'll see where it goes.... By the way, her name is Tessha.<br />
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As I mentioned, I need to hurry, but let me share with you three quotes I just love that I feel are appropo' to everything going on right now in my life. I hope they are for you as well. Have a great day and "here's to Triumph in all we do."<br />
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Personally? I know you'll do just fine ... whatever you, yourself, are going through. We're not quitters, right? And tomorrow, a new day, is just a night away.<br />
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"In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer." Albert Camus.<br />
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I love all three of these Triumph quotes. Have hope ... don't be afraid ... and realize just what you are capable of and just what "lies within you." You can do it. I just know it. The stuff of Triumph.... it's what we're ALL made of. It lies within us ALL. We each have divine potential within. </div>
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Until next time ... Patrick-Riv</div>The Triumph Timeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10256997292616226973noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8249756014286459134.post-49635125384333399092012-02-01T21:25:00.000-08:002012-02-05T23:35:22.766-08:00Back On the Big, Bad, Beautiful BlogSo ... if you've been wondering what became of me, I decided to take a break. I focused on the holidays, my children, licking a few wounds and launching the New Year together with my kids these last few weeks. It's been almost two months since I last posted on this Triumph blog, I am embarassed to admit, and I've gotta tell you: I've missed keeping it up and I have missed hearing your feedback and encouragement a lot.<br />
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As you know, if you've followed along, this blog's all about "beating the odds, overcoming challenges, and TRIUMPHING over whatever life may dish out." We've read of heros and heroines, athletes and artists. I've shared with you news stories, favorite quotes and even a few book and movie reviews along the way. Interwoven through them all has been that same, inspiring message: "<i>We're not going to quit</i>. <i>Whatever you throw at us, we're going to catch it, maybe take a bite out of it, then we're going to throw it right back in your face</i>."<br />
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<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-DUMeNW4SazE/TyoY9pKghxI/AAAAAAAAAQs/hBekbSWwF0Q/s1600/divorce-gavel.s600x600.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="212" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-DUMeNW4SazE/TyoY9pKghxI/AAAAAAAAAQs/hBekbSWwF0Q/s320/divorce-gavel.s600x600.jpg" width="320" /></a><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-DUMeNW4SazE/TyoY9pKghxI/AAAAAAAAAQs/hBekbSWwF0Q/s1600/divorce-gavel.s600x600.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><br /></a>I won't go into too much detail but suffice it to say that 2011 was tough ... if, for no other reason, than because my marriage came to a quick though not entirely unexpected end. After 9 years of marriage Emily and I divorced. It's a sad-but-good story in many ways. We separated in May and divorced in September 2011. I'm afraid, in this case, I can't write of "triumphing" over our challenges and working things out in the end. But I'll tell you what I can say ... we are <i>succeeding</i> in other ways. If nothing else, we're overcoming--both of us--the temptation to fight in front of the kids, to argue really at all, to, really, do anything to try to make life more difficult for the other than it already is or has to be. We're resisting the tendency so many divorced couples have of treating each other poorly, stabbing each other in the back, or throwing each other under the bus ... making the next however-many-years we're joined at the hip harder than they really have to be. We are instead focusing on co-parenting our 5 great kids ... and we're doing a really good job of it, a respectable job of it, if I don't say so myself. That is a Triumph in and of itself.<br />
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It helps a lot that Emily is an amazing Mom and is putting the children first in every way she can. I love them with all my heart ... and I know she feels the exact same way. Coming from a split marriage as a teen herself, Emily saw the impact, the hurt and the lingering effects that can come from long, vindictive divorces ... and she promised she would never put us or the children through that. She's keeping her promise for which I'm truly grateful. As I stated, we're doing things differently ... we're defining our new "relationship," co-parenting and supporting our kids, and, well ... we're making this up one day at a time but I really think we're doing okay. To her credit, when I'm in town, she lets me see the kids as often as I can. She tries to include me in their lives. She could be making this so much harder, so much more hurtful, but she has never come close. And the kids are thriving. They're "triumphing" in their own ways, or at least they seem to be. I know it's hard. I know it's been confusing and perplexing at times, especially for the younger ones. But ... they have each other, they have us, and they seem to be smiling most of the time. If I do say so myself, they all like coming to my house because I have X-Box Kinnect, tennis and a pool too. :0) You can see from the pictures that they still have a light in their eyes. As far as divorce goes, I think we're thriving through it and we're going to come out alright. I think they'll be okay, maybe even stronger in the end. I'd never encourage it. I'd never recommend divorce. But sometimes it turns out alright. I'm optimistic it can be for us. I really am proud of how Emily and I are dealing with it all. It's the only way I could imagine it working.<br />
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Today? We're working on new and better lives for us all. We're both dating. We're both working on school / work and trying to make a better future for ourselves and the kids. We're both trying to progress. Most of all, we're trying to work together well, to respect each other and be friendly and supportive for the most part. I feel optimistic we can do so. I feel hopeful that we'll survive. Thank you, Emily ... for your wisdom, maturity and patience through it all.<br />
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I'm rambling now. Thank you for reading, despite the meandering. I am going to try to write a little more consistently from here on out. The kids have had lots of daddy time, which I think they really needed. We've had fun, connected, enjoyed Christmas and the New Year and now were back to school, work and traveling (me, as a trainer and speaker) again. Vacation is over for the next little while. I'm looking forward to what 2012 is going to bring.<br />
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Patrick "River" LaingThe Triumph Timeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10256997292616226973noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8249756014286459134.post-56604697755282501022011-12-08T23:25:00.001-08:002012-02-03T09:33:49.182-08:00Back on the Balance Beam: First in StateSo, my goal at one time was to write at least 3 times per week in this blog. I don't know if that's better or worse than it was when I was trying to write every night. (It's worse; it didn't happen. In fact, my blog fell apart for awhile I hate to admit). The problem with not writing all of the time is that, before I realize it, the week is half over and I haven't written a single post. My apologies one and all.<br />
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It's been a busy household around the Laing home this week, most importantly because Brighten had her State gymnastics finals this week. Only 72 gymnasts made it to State this year and she was one of those selected, even though it's only her first year as a gymnast; I'm not proud at all. Ya right. I couldn't be more proud.<br />
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The awesome thing, and the thing I wanted to mention today if nothing else, is that Brighten proved the point I tried making in my earlier post about the rewards of getting back up on that "horse" (or in this case, that balance beam).<br />
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Get this: in every meet this year, including Sectionals two weeks ago, she did well ... she placed, she won medals, she even got a handful of first and second finishes. But, the balance beam has continued to be elusive for her. She fell in every 2011 meet. However, as I wrote previously, she didn't let it get her down, bouncing right back up whenever she fell; in fact, at one meet she STILL got a 9.025, even with a fall (which is pretty unheard of). She never wasted time commiserating, worrying, or getting upset. [As I posted before, "it isn't just 'getting back up' that counts; it's doing so quickly, without wasting time or letting yourself get down, and stay down."]<br />
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So ... she fell during the beam event in every single meet ... except this last Saturday's. Our little girl, in her first year of gymnastics (did I already say that?), executed flawlessly and SHE TOOK FIRST PLACE IN THE BEAM! She won 6th overall--6th in the whole State--even with a stumble on her bars event (she did really good there as well, but tripped on a crack in the pad that wasn't taped down very well). 1st in Beam and 6th overall! Not bad for a little 4-foot nothing pipsqueak who didn't even know what a balance beam was not 13 months ago.<br />
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Obviously we can learn several different lessons from Brighty's example:<br />
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1. When you fall or stumble, don't hesitate; get right back up.<br />
2. Every time you fail, learn ... grow ... get better; your day will come.<br />
3. Apply yourself if you want success (trust me ... Brighten spends more time on her hands and head it seems than on her feet these days; she practices on everything. Are you doing the same?)<br />
4. Have faith, keep trying and never give up. It isn't always easy but it's worth it.<br />
5. Find your passion--eat, drink and breathe it, and be willing to sacrifice to make it come to pass.<br />
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(These kind of all sound like the same lesson told 5 different ways; oh well ... it's late and I'm too excited to think straight).<br />
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You can see in the picture that SHE isn't proud at all either. Ya, right. She's bursting at the seams, as she should be ... and her ol' dad is too. Nice job, Brighty Boo. I'm very proud of you. You are an inspiration to us all.<br />
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Never stop soaring. I love you dearly.....<br />
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Daddy-PatrickThe Triumph Timeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10256997292616226973noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8249756014286459134.post-31939417117910507482011-11-30T19:42:00.001-08:002011-11-30T22:31:04.314-08:00The Big Year: A Surprising Gem<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I watched a movie a short while ago called "The Big Year" that I really enjoyed and I've been wanting to write a Triumph post about it. Though the critics' reviews have been mixed (it has a B- on Rotten Tomatoes), I found it entertaining, enlightening and also poignant in its own way.<br />
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It was entertaining because, with not just one or two but THREE comedic powerhouses starring in the film--Steve Martin, Owen Wilson <i>and </i>Jack Black--you could expect to be entertained, and they did the job well. The comedy wasn't slapstick or crude at all (despite the two younger headliners and their normal repertoires). It was tasteful and creative and pretty darn funny, I thought. It was also thoughtful; but I'll talk about that more in a minute.<br />
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The film was enlightening because it tells the tale of three "birders" (bird watching enthusiasts) who set out to outdo each other in the so-called "Big Year" race, an annual U.S. competition among birders to see who can view the most <i>different </i>bird species in a single year. Enlightening? Educational? Informative? It was all of these and more. I think I enjoyed it mostly because it was a subject I know little about, and the "Triumphant editor" in me of course enjoyed seeing how passionate many of the participants in the contest were. I came away with my eyes opened to a new and intriguing hobby (I actually found the whole sport quite interesting). And much of the cinematography they shot in the film was absolutely gorgeous, ranging from Maine to Alaska and everything in-between.<br />
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I also found the film to be poignant and thought provoking, primarily because of three main reasons in particular. First, I enjoy stories that remind us of how success requires focus and focus usually requires passion; the guys in the movie were certainly a passionate, if not borderline-fanatic, trio. Second, the movie reminds us that, even when tempted, we can't afford to abandon our values, even when competing or working toward a goal. It isn't good enough to "win" if we leave what's most important behind; Triumph, true triumph, demands a certain moral code, a code I'm pretty sure we're all familiar with. And then there's the third highlight, Sacrifice. I won't ruin the story, but suffice it to say, the movie does a good job paralleling life with their hobby / pursuit and reminding us of the <i>costs</i> that so often accompany our pursuits of excellence. It reminds us to be cognizant of all that's required, and ask if, in the end, it's worth it. Sometimes it is; sometimes it just isn't. Whatever the case, I know from experience that it usually isn't an easy, downhill stroll. Most things that matter rarely are. The movie, like I said, does an excellent job reiterating this point--the demand and the price that are usually required. I found it to be a timely reminder for myself and my family, and maybe the rest of you as well.<br />
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Here's to you ... whatever your hobbies, passions or aspirations are. I hope they too are entertaining, enlightening and poignant for you and yours and that this year has been <u>your</u> "Big Year" and that 2012 will be even bigger still. Best of luck <i>and</i> skill...! Patrick-RivThe Triumph Timeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10256997292616226973noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8249756014286459134.post-87686739476823173842011-11-22T14:49:00.001-08:002011-11-30T07:12:28.040-08:00Wintley Phipps: Amazing Grace<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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It's been a couple weeks since I last wrote in this blog. Can I just say ... OUCH! Time flies by when you're, let's see, co-parenting five busy children, launching a new Internet business, doing a F/T job, being under the weather a little and celebrating Thanksgiving all at the same time. My apologies to those of you who follow The Triumph Times daily / weekly and have been checking back for new material. It's amazing how fast the missed days can add up.<br />
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You should know that I've thought of you and the next few subjects I'm going to write on literally dozens of times--at least several times each day. I'm constantly running across new material, subjects, questions and topics. Hardly a day goes by without me thinking, "I need to blog about that." Isn't it amazing, if you really stop to think about it, how much TRIUMPH we're all surrounded by? I know, I know.... the economy stinks, unemployment is up, jobs down, not to mention spirits. I'm well aware of all this. But I'm not down and I hope you aren't either. So many of us are still persevering. So many of us are like the intrepid explorers, soldiers, adventurers and more of yesteryear, who stared into the eye of the storm or the enemy and said, "Give Us Your Worst. We Will Not Back Down, No Matter What You Try Throwing at Us, We Are Stronger Than You!"<br />
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As I look back on my own life, many, many examples come to mind of resilience for which I am very grateful (it is Thanksgiving week, after all). Three quick examples:<br />
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Dan O'Steen, a wonderful sales manager of mine with Trendwest Resorts many years ago, is a true gentleman who reminded me "people don't care what you know until they truly know you care." He also used to say, "you don't have to be high pressure to be highly effective." Dan, my hat is off to you. You're a great man, a great manager, and also one heck of a saxophone player (Danno's band, Blues Union, is simply amazing).<br />
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And then there's Mel Horowitz, a dear friend of mine who is practically bursting with enthusiasm pretty much every time you see him. In his mid-70's, he lives life to its FULLEST, staying healthy, keeping busy, pretty much loving every minute. Lately he's been selling loads of stuff on eBay ... last month he was working in a Costco Warehouse collecting leads for LeafGuard NW (the well-known rain gutter company). Mel doesn't need the money; he's retired many times over and is paying to take 45+ people on a Bahamas cruise tomorrow ... (his entire family + his ex-wife and her husband; how's that for Triumphing [over sadness / divorce]?) Mel, more than just about anyone I know, teaches me often how to "Triumph over adversity." His example is inspiring to us all.<br />
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Speaking of inspiring, I wanted to share with you a clip and story from another powerful example, Wintley Phipps, real quick. Whether you're Christian or not, religious or not, or even a spiritual person or not, it doesn't really matter. I think you'll be touched by his story and song.<br />
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Wintley Phipps is the founder of U.S. Dream Academy, Inc., a non-profit organization which helps children who have had a family member behind bars. They're doing some really neat things, helping these kids Triumph over their set of circumstances and <i>thrive</i>. If you'll watch the YouTube clip below, you'll see three things that stood out to me and probably others that will have a similar or even greater effect on you:<br />
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1. Did you know most African American spirituals are played using only the black keys of the piano? I found that very interesting. The haunting feel of an all-black-key melody is mesmerizing, and interestingly appropriate.<br />
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3. Lastly, did you know the timeless hymn, Amazing Grace, was written by a former captain of a slave ship, John Newton? His story is touching, and very aptly portrayed in the <i>movie</i>, Amazing Grace, starring Ioan Gruffud and Albert Finney.<br />
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Like I said, it doesn't really matter your background, your belief-system or your philosophy: you can't help but be moved by this man and his rendition of this song. I'm spiritual but not terribly religious, per se. I have faith, believe in a higher being, consider myself a good Christian, and try to do what's right ... but I'm not usually a big fan of the evangelic, "tent revival" type of worship. Be that as it may, this performance touched me deeply. I hope it does the same for you.<br />
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Mr. Phipps' mission, his message and his organization are impressive. You can learn more about them at <a href="http://www.usdreamacademy.org/"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: cyan;">http://www.usdreamacademy.org/</span></a>. And Happy Thanksgiving, whoever you are.<br />
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Be grateful.....<br />
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P.S. I'm going to do my best to write at least 3 times each week, if not more, from here forward. This way, if I miss a day or two, it's not the end of the world. I might be able to put a little more meat into the posts as well. From the feedback I hear, folks seem to be enjoying them and I'm enjoying doing this. I hope you're getting a lot out of them.<br />
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I appreciate your reading. Please spread the word and come back and visit real soon. JPL<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;">* <span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;">Wintley Phipps has performed for American Presidents Jimmy Carter, Ronald Regan, George H.W. Bush, Bill Glinto, George W. Bush and Barack Obama at severl National Prayer Breakfast </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;">events and other distinguished celebrations.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 10px;"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;">He performed for: the 1984]]</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 10px;">,</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;"> and 1988</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;"> National Democratic Conventions, Rosa Parks'</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;"> 77th Birthday gala at the Kennedy Center, Mother Theresa of Calcutta, and </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;">President Nelson Mandela. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;">He has appeared on various programs such as the Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. television special, Dr. Robert Schuller's Hour of Power Telecast, the Billy Graham Crusades, </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;">at the Vatican,</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;"> was guest soloist at Diana Ross'</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;"> wedding ceremony in Switzerland, </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;">and on Saturday Night Live, Soul Train, and the Oprah Winfrey Show. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;">He has also conducted lectures in Europe, Australia, Asia, Africa and North and South America. </span></span>The Triumph Timeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10256997292616226973noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8249756014286459134.post-74339781065412497282011-11-15T11:58:00.001-08:002011-11-16T00:22:27.098-08:00"Boldness Has Genius, Power and Magic In It"<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I stayed up way too late last night trying to write about Abraham Lincoln, his Gettysburg Address and the timeless principle of "less is usually more." I struggled with the post (sometimes it just flows and other times it doesn't; kind of like life). I hope you enjoyed the write-up.<br />
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Tonight I'm going to try to go to bed a little earlier. As such, I'm going to follow Abe's example and try to stick to brevity in this evening's post. I promise only 1 or 2 "more lengthy" postings each week. In between, I'll try to share something like the quote below (I've always loved it). Even in quotes, less is usually more.<br />
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Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, the genius of modern German literature, penned the words: <br />
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"Whatever you can do, or dream you can, Begin it.<br />
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Begin it now." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe<br />
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</div>The Triumph Timeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10256997292616226973noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8249756014286459134.post-33543664623821494682011-11-14T22:49:00.001-08:002011-11-15T23:38:07.628-08:00A Lasting Principle: "Less is More"<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-TT2Yfm2l_rk/TsIh33h_hUI/AAAAAAAAAO8/Z7idU4_QA4Y/s1600/gettysburg-address-320x318.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; display: inline !important; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="316" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-TT2Yfm2l_rk/TsIh33h_hUI/AAAAAAAAAO8/Z7idU4_QA4Y/s320/gettysburg-address-320x318.jpg" width="320" /></a>I've spoken on this blog about leadership and courage. I've also mentioned brevity and how one of my personal goals is to learn to communicate, and live, more succinctly. I've come to believe that it adds little to the value of what we say or do when we wax verbose or long-winded in the process. It's a challenge for me, and for many of us, I think. "Less is more," though, or so they say ... but applying it in our lives can be challenging and elusive. (I once made a goal to keep emails I wrote to 100 words or less. It was tough; it was harder than just free-writing. I liked it, though, and I think folks appreciated it more; I may have to have a go at the goal again....).<br />
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Why is it exactly that less is usually more? How do we get there? I personally believe it's valuable in a lot of different areas: acquiring, consuming, even in our hobbies and our past-times. Lack of balance is rarely becoming; excessive behavior rarely leads to joy. We've all seen good and bad examples of this in our lives. The question is, are we learning from our own and others' experiences and mistakes?<br />
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"Less might be more" when our career or business is so demanding we find ourselves neglecting those most important to us. "Less might be more" when we spend too much time on the road ... or on the golf course ... or maybe at our favorite casino or fishing hole. Less is almost certainly more when it comes to more or less time with our kids (they say "it's <i>all</i> quality time to our children.") I really can't think of anything that counters this thought. Even less wealth or success may be desirable at times. (I can think of many high profile celebrities or entrepreneurs who would love to have the paparazzi disappear).<br />
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<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-uSEmnlyVsKo/TsIh3ht0qYI/AAAAAAAAAO0/tgZFPsi49pw/s1600/Gettysburg+Address.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="212" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-uSEmnlyVsKo/TsIh3ht0qYI/AAAAAAAAAO0/tgZFPsi49pw/s320/Gettysburg+Address.jpg" width="320" /></a>A bumper sticker I once saw echoes this premise: "You never see a hearse pulling a U-Haul trailer behind it." This concept applies both in life as well as in writing. Personally, I appreciate brevity and Hemingway's to-the-point approach, though I fall in the trap of Faulkner's more verbose style; it bothers me and is something I'm working to change. Hemingway's succinctness is a breath of fresh air and something I admire a great deal. I often tell my sales people to "take more out" rather than "add more in" (to their sales presentations). I need to follow my own advice. It's a better approach and a goal we should all seek after more in our lives.<br />
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One of the most memorable examples of brevity (and leadership) was given to us on November 19, 1863, the day Abraham Lincoln gave his famous Gettysburg Address. Just 1196 words long and it's one of the most famous speeches and documents of our time. And it is obviously to the point. It's actually a bit ironic, because Lincoln himself says in the speech that the world "will little note, nor long remember what we say here." He got that part wrong: the day <i>and</i> the document live indelibly in our minds.<br />
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I hope you enjoy the speech. I certainly did. I've read it before but it's been many, many years. I don't know if you've read it yourself or if it's been awhile as well. It's listed below in case you'd like to do so. It's short--less than 1,200 words, as I mentioned--yet powerful and unforgettable. It is quoted, referenced, remembered and revered. I've always loved it. This Friday last I was reminded of a couple of reasons why.<br />
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It's late and I have certainly gone on long enough, exceeding Lincoln's address by several hundred words, even as I discuss the subject of brevity. Again, I'm trying to learn my own lessons.... Thanks for being patient while I figure it out.<br />
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Happy reading,<br />
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Yesterday's post was a proper tribute, I felt, to a young man who--even in weakness, even with a challenging disability (austism)--has chosen to adapt and overcome. He hasn't let his achilles heel slow him down. Instead, he's <i>decided</i> to Triumph over his affliction. It's a great reminder to us all of how we should not and cannot let life overwhelm us. All of the stories on this blog, the movies, books reviews, the people and examples, say the same thing: you can't beat us ... you won't get us down ... we won't let you kill us, no matter how hard you make it.<br />
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It's not easy. Sure, it's all well and good to talk about resiliency and achievement and principles like this when the skies are blue and the birds are singing. But, what about in the middle of the flood, when the rains are coming down, and your house is sliding into the creek? This is the time when our mettle is tested; this is the essence of our resolve.<br />
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Real quick, I want to share with you a movie clip from the recent block buster, Captain America: The First Avenger, starring Chris Evans as Steve Rogers [Captain America]. It teaches us a valuable lesson on how to Triumph even when we're not the strongest, smartest or most impressive in the bunch. Even when weak, we can still make a difference. I absolutely loved this scene.<br />
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The movie in general, I thought, was pretty well done. Like other Marvel Comic tales, it's a little superfluous at times, but the action was engaging and the filming quite interesting. Set in World War II, it's the story of a once-sickly soldier and his experience becoming Captain America, the "first super hero." What stood out to me during the film, and the reason I wanted to mention it here today, was a scene in which Colonel Chester Phillips, played by Tommy Lee Jones, and Dr. Abraham Erskine, played by Stanley Tucci, are debating over who will be the best choice for their Top Secret program, Project Rebirth. Colonel Chester sees only Steve's frail health and slight build and is still not convinced he's the right choice. Dr. Erskine on the other hand believes otherwise, convinced that the young private has the right stuff, the inner strength and<i> character,</i> they need and have been searching for.<br />
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So ... what is the right stuff, exactly? What is it, do you think, that really makes the biggest difference? Is it being taller, stronger, more handsome or charismatic? Is that what's most important? Dr. E doesn't think so and neither do I. He wants what he sees in Private Steven Rogers ... quiet, humble courage and commitment, not to mention unselfishness--three elements that show up in many of our Triumph Times examples. </div>
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Dr. Erskine teaches one of the most important lessons of all, when it comes to Triumph and success, when he says : "The weak man knows the value of strength, the value of power." Even in weakness ... even when we're afraid or overwhelmed ... we can overcome and stand strong. In fact, more often than not, it is in our weakness and humanity that we usually prevail. It's the stuff that Triumph eats, drinks, breathes and thrives on. It's the stuff most real heroes, in my experience, are made of.<br />
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I liked the movie. I loved this scene. Check it out at <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kO6qu5fQLHo">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kO6qu5fQLHo</a>.<br />
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Take care and thanks for checking in,<br />
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Here's the full Captain America movie trailer. It's worth watching. Enjoy! <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JerVrbLldXw">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JerVrbLldXw</a>The Triumph Timeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10256997292616226973noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8249756014286459134.post-87596687634523157892011-11-10T23:35:00.001-08:002011-11-11T01:02:30.510-08:00Autism and Authenticity: Jason McElwain<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-aXl5v4XHFRc/TrzY56pyL1I/AAAAAAAAANM/objMMKL6SMY/s1600/0451223012.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; display: inline !important; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-aXl5v4XHFRc/TrzY56pyL1I/AAAAAAAAANM/objMMKL6SMY/s1600/0451223012.jpeg" /></a>I'm in a bit of a current
events mood lately, and this article and video clip (from CBSNews.com) tells of
Jason McElwain, an autistic high school senior from Greek Athena High School in
Rochester NY, and his Triumphant Day. It has everything I look for in this
blog--emotion, inspiration, authenticity ... and Triumph, of course.<br />
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movies of all time revolve around inspiring sports stories like Rudy, Glory Road, Hoosiers, etc. I have plenty of favorites but these are probably the Top Three. (If you haven't seen them, I highly recommend it).<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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movies, well most of us do, and they don't get much better than this one about J Mac, as they call him. Stories like his tell of just not giving in to incredible odds. They're "David and
Goliath" tales, in almost every instance, where success comes hard fought and only after great sacrifice, effort and sometimes loss. They are stories about
individuals who pay the price asked of them, and more, who Triumph in the
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that goes with the CBSNews.com news report about Jason. I'll
let it speak for itself, along with the video linked below. You will easily see why I felt they should be included as today's inspirational post. I
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Jason McElwain had been the manager of the varsity basketball team of Greece
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">McElwain,
who's autistic, was added to the roster by coach Jim Johnson so he could be
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hoped the situation would even enable him to get McElwain onto the floor a
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had a lot of thrills in coaching," Johnson says. "I've coached a lot
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used to being around him. A couple of weeks ago, he missed practice because he
was sick. You feel different when he's not around. He brings humor and life to
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><br /></span></div>The Triumph Timeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10256997292616226973noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8249756014286459134.post-90605387574022667522011-11-10T00:08:00.000-08:002011-11-10T09:23:17.450-08:00Erasing Hate: The Triumphant Racist<span class="Apple-style-span" style="clear: left; color: black; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-cHWbCOHjZmI/TruDXGUDdrI/AAAAAAAAAMI/9TtYsWPaAEk/s400/Erasing-Hate.jpg" width="400" /></span><br />
This is an excerpt from an article written by Helen O'Neill on
October 31, 2011.<br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I try to share current events and various news stories every now
and then, especially ones like the following. This is an inspiring story of a
reformed skinhead who chooses to endure agony to have his hate-inspired tattoos
removed. It’s a great example of Triumphing over HATE ... or anything holding us back from living a full and abundant life. They say most hate is caused by fear and
fear is brought on by ignorance. When we choose to look past our
differences, get to know each other better, replace unfamiliarity with
understanding and fear with appreciation, new opportunities unfold to us that are difficult to imagine. The
whole world becomes a better place. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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in his own small way, is helping to make it just that. <o:p></o:p></span>The full article, if you'd like to read it, is posted on KSL.com at the following link: </div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Nice job, brother. My “tatt is off" to you. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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"We had come so far," she says. "We had left the
movement, had created a good family life. We had so much to live for. I just
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">After getting married in 2006, the couple, former pillars of the
white power movement (she as a member of the National Alliance, he a founder of
the Vinlanders gang of skinheads) had worked hard to put their racist past
behind them. They had settled down and had a baby; her younger children had
embraced him as a father.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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EDITOR'S NOTE: A reformed skinhead, Bryon Widner was desperate
to rid himself of the racist tattoos that covered his face—so desperate that he
turned to former enemies for help, and was willing to endure months of pain. [Second
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And yet, the past was ever-present—tattooed in brutish symbols
all over his body and face: a blood-soaked razor, swastikas, the letters
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Wherever he turned Widner was shunned—on job sites, in stores
and restaurants. People saw a menacing thug, not a loving father. He felt like
an utter failure.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-yAKROogQFUs/TruDX4VL6DI/AAAAAAAAAMc/A0-dv-N1awc/s1600/imag012.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: black;"><img border="0" height="215" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-yAKROogQFUs/TruDX4VL6DI/AAAAAAAAAMc/A0-dv-N1awc/s320/imag012.jpg" width="320" /></span></a>On June 22, 2009, Widner lay on an operating table, his mind
spinning with anxiety and hope. A nurse dabbed numbing gel all over his face.
Shack towered over him in protective goggles and injected a local anesthetic.
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Widner had never felt such pain. Not all the times he had
suffered black eyes and lost teeth in bar brawls, not the time in jail when
guards—for fun—locked him up with a group of black inmates in order to see him
taken down. His face swelled up in a burning rage, his eyes were black and
puffy, his hands looked like blistered boxing gloves. He had never felt so
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They developed a routine. Every few weeks, Widner would spend
about an hour and a half in surgery and another hour in recovery, while Julie
would fuss and fret and try to summon the strength to hide her fears and smile
at the bruised, battered husband she drove home. It would often take days for
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Shack and his team marveled at Widner's determination and
endurance. The Widners marveled at the team's level of commitment and care.
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Julie and shook hands with Bryon. Removing the tattoos, he said, had been one
of his greatest honors as a surgeon. But a greater privilege was getting to
know them.</div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I couldn't agree more. Anyone who puts themselves through challenging, painful or difficult experiences for a higher good deserves to be congratulated. I think Bryon definitely does. If you read this, your story is inspiring to us all. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Thanks for your example. We won't soon forget it..... </span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Most respectfully, </span>JPR</div>
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<br />The Triumph Timeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10256997292616226973noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8249756014286459134.post-67425662348688623072011-11-08T23:59:00.000-08:002011-11-09T10:20:40.096-08:00Simple Truths: Dancing in the Rain<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">It's
late and I've been busy working prepping a Quick Start Guide for one of my Internet ventures,
One24. If you haven't taken a look at it, feel free to. You can learn all about
it at www.timetotriumph.com. That being said, before I hit the sack I wanted to
share with you a story I recently read. This is from another daily newsletter I'm
subscribed to called "Simple Truths." I've seen very few stories of
Triumph more inspiring than this. </span><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I
hope you enjoy it. I'd encourage you to subscribe to Mac's free inspirational
messages. I'll write more tomorrow. I appreciate your readership.</span><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">The date was July 16,
2008. It was late in the afternoon and I was sitting in my hotel room in
Louisville, Kentucky. I was scheduled to speak that evening for the Kentucky
Association of School Administrators (KASA). I was a little "down in the
dumps." I hadn't gotten to exercise lately because of my traveling
schedule and recently I'd experienced some mild bouts of vertigo (that inner
ear condition that can cause the room to start spinning.) You got it...speaking
and "spinning" are not good partners! <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 15pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">My
keynote presentation was scheduled for 7:00 PM, but I had been invited to show
up at 6:00 to see a performance they said I'd enjoy. Little did I know that I
was about to see something I would never forget. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">They
introduced the young musician. Welcome...Mr. Patrick Henry Hughes. He was
rolled onto the stage in his wheelchair, and began to play the piano. His
fingers danced across the keys as he made beautiful music. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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then began to sing as he played, and it was even more beautiful. For some
reason, however, I knew that I was seeing something special. There was this
aura about him that I really can't explain and the smile...his smile was magic! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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ten minutes into Patrick's performance, someone came on the stage and
said..."I'd like to share a 7-minute video titled, The Patrick Hughes story." And the lights went dim. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Patrick
Henry Hughes was born with no eyes, and a tightening of the joints which left
him crippled for life. However, as a child, he was fitted with artificial eyes
and placed in a wheelchair. Before his first birthday, he discovered the piano.
His mom said, "I could hit any note on the piano, and within one or two
tries, he'd get it." By his second birthday, he was playing requests (You
Are My Sunshine, Twinkle Twinkle Little Star). His father was ecstatic.
"We might not play baseball, but we can play music together."</div>
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Patrick is a junior at the University of Louisville. His father attends classes
with him and he's made nearly all A's, with the exception of 3 B's He's also a
part of the 214 member marching band. You read it right...the marching band!
He's a blind, wheelchair-bound trumpet player; and he and his father do it
together. They attend all the band practices and the half-time performance in
front of thousands. His father rolls and rotates his son around the field to
the cheers of Patrick's fans. In order to attend Patrick's classes and every
band practice, his father works the graveyard shift at UPS. Patrick
said..."My dad's my hero."</span><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">But
even more than his unbelievable musical talent, it was Patrick's "attitude
of gratitude" that touched my soul. On stage, between songs, he would talk
to the audience about his life and about how blessed he was. He said, "God
made me blind and unable to walk. BIG DEAL! He gave me the ability ... the gifts I have ... the great opportunity to meet new people."</span><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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his performance was over, Patrick and his father were on the stage together.
The crowd rose to their feet and cheered for over five minutes. It gave me
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">My life was ready to
meet Patrick Henry Hughes. I needed a hero, and I found one for the ages. If I
live to be a hundred, I'll never forget that night, that smile, that music, but
most importantly, that wonderful "attitude of gratitude." <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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returned to Chicago and shared Patrick's story with my wife, my friends, and
our team at Simple Truths. About two weeks later, I received a letter from a
friend. He said, "Mac, here is a quote from Vivian Greene that I think
you'll love!" "Life is not about waiting for the storms to
pass... it's about learning how to dance in the rain!" <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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thought...that's it! We all face adversity in our life. However, it's not the
adversity, but how we react to it that will determine the joy and happiness in
our life. During tough times, do we spend too much time feeling sorry for
ourselves, or, can we, with gratitude...learn how to dance in the rain? <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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almost sounds too simple to feel important, but one word...gratitude, can
change your attitude, thus, your life, forever. Sarah Breathnach said it
best... "When we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but
are grateful for the abundance that's present....we experience heaven on
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">What
I just shared is the introduction to my book, Learning to Dance in the
Rain...The Power of Gratitude. My co-author is BJ Gallagher and she is one of
the most talented and creative writers I've every known. It was an honor to
work with her on this beautiful book that can truly change the way you think
about life. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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> My grandfather, Bill, is still holding strong. He has terminal cancer as I've said, he's in a great deal of pain, but he almost seems to be growing stronger every time I see him ... it's like he's actually transcending the trial he's undergoing. He is determined to stay himself, to keep smiling, to keep serving others, and to "keep his chin up," as he puts it. Right to the end, he is Triumphing. Right to the end, he is an inspiration to us all.</div>
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> My daughter Brighten just won 5 medals in her meet on Saturday, including 3rd overall for the meet. She's placed several times in the last 3 meets, she's headed for Sectionals and, possibly, the State finals after that (they only take the top 72 gymnasts but she's got a good shot, according to her coach, even though she's only in her first year as I've mentioned). I couldn't be prouder.<br />
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<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-X9q5QgSY8P8/TriVKCwyhII/AAAAAAAAAKo/FkWMMAMSxUI/s1600/birth-of-a-warrior.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="400" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-X9q5QgSY8P8/TriVKCwyhII/AAAAAAAAAKo/FkWMMAMSxUI/s400/birth-of-a-warrior.jpg" width="280" /></a>Think about it, if she had gotten frustrated, had thrown up her hands or even slumped her shoulders (technically speaking) for even a moment, she would have likely lost more points and probably not placed at all. Instead she gave that extra "Umph" she needed, she didn't let disappointment get her down, and she won 3rd place. It was a great Triumphant reminder that applies not only in sports but many areas of life.<br />
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> And then there's writing and writers: I've written about Hemingway, Faulkner and Allie Hanley, etc. I've been writing this blog here since the 12th of October. Since that time, I've had people practically coming out of the woodwork saying how much they enjoy it. They're enjoying the writing, from what they say, and they're grateful to Allie for her "kick in my kiester." Today? I'm hoping for more [in blog] comments--what do YOU want to see and hear more of herein--but, through Facebook and email I'm hearing lots of great feedback. There seems to be a real hunger for this kind of motivational material. I've even had a couple parties contact me about full-time writing jobs. We shall see but it sounds like fun....<br />
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<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/--Vckxm2uG_0/TriUgvbOFXI/AAAAAAAAAKg/9GGhOqC958c/s1600/sydneyoperahouse-ipad-wallpaper.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/--Vckxm2uG_0/TriUgvbOFXI/AAAAAAAAAKg/9GGhOqC958c/s200/sydneyoperahouse-ipad-wallpaper.jpg" width="200" /></a>> As I highlight different "Umphers" here at The Triumph Times (those Triumphing over their lives and their challenges), I would be remiss to not mention my good friend, TV / movie producer, Russell Cunningham (of RLC Motion Pictures in Sydney, Australia). Russell is an American producer now living Down Under with his Aussie sweetheart, Colleen. He recently produced a movie called <i>Birth of a Warrior</i> starring Tonny White, the youngest kung fu master in the world (Tonny was trained by the same grand master as superstar, Bruce Lee). For less than most of us have spent on our first home, and maybe our latest car, Russell and his team scraped the movie together from start to finish--a Triumph in and of itself.<br />
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They did this in an economy that has decimated the Australian movie industry; they did it following the loss of two, previous fully-contracted films (a half-a-million dollar loss combined, directly related to the economic crash); they attracted Tonny White to the film and got additional talent to donate their time and efforts and names; the list of "Triumphs" goes on and on. Through it all, Russell has stayed strong, weathered the storms, believed in his team and worked to make the project, albeit a small one, come to pass. He continues to beat the odds; he continues to be a perfect example of Triumph. (If you knew him, you would know that quitting just isn't in his nature. But it hasn't been easy, as he will tell you, and he isn't finished yet).<br />
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If I had to guess, I'd say ... keep an eye out for Russ. You're going to see more of him and RLC Motion Pictures in the future, I'm sure. He's a talented producer with a real vision and passion for his work. These are both, of course, prerequisites if you want a truly Triumphant life. You take your licks ... you keep going ... you follow your passion (even when it's hard) ... and you <i>stick with it</i>. In short, you follow Russell's example. Do so and you will rarely go wrong.<br />
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I'm proud of you, Superman, and I look forward to many more to come ... films, stories, awards and Triumphs. <i>Birth of a Warrior</i> probably isn't going to win any Oscars anytime soon ... but, your effort and commitment should. They're an inspiration to us all.<br />
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Just one of your fans,<br />
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I'm subscribed to a daily coaching service with a successful speaker and writer I enjoy, Mr. John C. Maxwell <a href="http://johnmaxwellteam.com/"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: cyan;">(http://johnmaxwellteam.com)</span></a>. He sends out a daily "Minute With Maxwell" message that shows up in my email each morning and always starts my day out right. He's considered one of the most respected speakers in the world and has written over 60 books and sold 20 million+ copies worldwide. I think it's safe to say he has a thought or two that are worth hearing. I've certainly enjoyed his insights.<br />
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I've wanted to share with you one of his "Minutes" and today's seemed like an appropriate choice. He's speaking about "Transformational Leadership," talking about how a transformational life (one we've been referring to as a Triumphant one, I think it's safe to say), a life without regrets, all starts with a choice to change. It really all begins with the choices that we day in and day out.<br />
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It's not rocket science, but it is a good reminder. John then goes on to share a great idea for how to effect change in our life. I think you'll appreciate it.<br />
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My recommendation would be to click on both links ... his main site (above), so you can "meet the man" and sign up for his daily minute, if you'd like to, and this last site (below), so you can hear this specific thought on transforming. Both are worth the sixty seconds they will take you. I've been personally enjoying his counsel for over a year now.<br />
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If we're not growing we're dying ... if we are not changing, we're probably growing stale. I hope we aren't.<br />
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<br />The Triumph Timeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10256997292616226973noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8249756014286459134.post-7894975205696018752011-11-04T01:04:00.000-07:002011-11-09T10:27:37.931-08:00Confidence: the Stuff of TriumphConfidence: the stuff of heroes ... the secret of kings ... the essence of champions ... the trait of true leadership. What is it exactly and where does it come from? Are we born with it, or is it acquired? Can it be developed, or is it discovered? Any thoughts, readers? What do <i>you </i>think confidence really, truly is...? Does it exist, like the picture suggests, purely because and when we believe that it does?<br />
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<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-kUXBVSOE200/TrOPXftMI9I/AAAAAAAAAJA/Dj9E6PkYohY/s1600/1303623032241287568911-1.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="238" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-kUXBVSOE200/TrOPXftMI9I/AAAAAAAAAJA/Dj9E6PkYohY/s320/1303623032241287568911-1.jpeg" width="320" /></a>Lots of questions but I think they're important ones in any discussion of personal Triumph. We've all seen those men and women who seem to exude confidence--it seems to almost ooze from their pores. In my experience, it's a mystery. Why do some have it and others don't? Why do some of us struggle while, to others, it comes so naturally, so easily, it seems? It's an age-old question.<br />
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For some, confidence is consistent, at other times it's fleeting. Sometimes it's a facade, a wave, a ripple moving like a tiny fishing ship tossed at sea. Other times, it's real and strong and seemingly immovable, like a giant sequoia tree in the deepest forest. As we know, both get blown by the wind, even ravaged at times, but one isn't moved and the other one is, and maybe even drowned; we've all experienced this. Even the most confident of us, at times, feel vulnerable, shaken and alone. And then, we're strong again, confident.... It's bizarre, a good question, a good topic for discussion. And then, I ask you, at the same time, isn't vulnerability and worry, in certain ways, an asset or a strength as well? Isn't it a sign of true confidence to admit when you are human, wavering or weak? Isn't this the essence of strength ... to be honest in your weakness, to admit when you're not perfect but, rather, to be human, authentic, accessible and real?<br />
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Lots of great questions. We all want to be confident and I think we all can be, in our own personal ways. One man's confidence is another man's weakness. One may seem arrogant. Another may seem too subdued. I think, ultimately, it doesn't really matter: it is for each of us to decide if our brand of confidence makes us happy and if it's moving us in the direction we desire. If it is then it's sufficient. If it isn't, then we need to keep trying. As long as <i>we </i>are okay with ourselves or, at least, okay with the person we're becoming, then we're good to go. We can sleep well at night and wake prepared for what life hands us. We can Triumph over it all. No other opinion matters nearly as much as does our own.<br />
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Another bit of good news is that, regardless of how we currently may see ourselves, we <i>can</i> improve upon that perception and that preparation and situation, and do so all the rest of our lives. We're rarely stuck in the process of progression. We never have to be satisfied with the status quo, who we are or how we act or interact today. We can get better, little by little, if we truly desire ... and this is the essence of how we Triumph over life: we never lie down. At the same time, it's okay to be at peace with who we see in the mirror, to love ourselves, if we do ... and to be pleased with the person we've become and are unveiling. It's a Triumphant "balancing act" of sorts, but one that is important we each define. When are we good enough? When are we strong enough? When is it okay for us to relax and stop trying so hard? Answer that question and we'll find more satisfaction and joy than we probably thought possible. We'll feel more sure, more peaceful and, ultimately ... more confident, and that, my friends, is rarely a negative thing.<br />
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I'll stop talking now. It's late. Please ... share your thoughts. When do <i>you</i> feel most confident? What have you found that helps you get there? What, in your own life, has helped you develop greater confidence, and courage? What do you suggest the rest of can do to get there in our own separate ways? Please share with us your insights and ideas. <br />
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Thanks for listening. I appreciate "the shot in the arm" your ongoing readership provides.<br />
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I love this quote from Doctor Suess I saw recently on Facebook. It SCREAMS Triumph. Troubles...? Trials...? A topsy turvy Life...? Bring them on for we are ready and will not shrink with the dawn.<br />
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come from behind. But I've bought a big bat. I'm all ready, you see. Now my
troubles are going to have trouble with me." -- </span>Dr. Seuss</div>The Triumph Timeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10256997292616226973noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8249756014286459134.post-86621713648946218352011-11-01T13:06:00.000-07:002011-11-02T09:05:04.725-07:00"Get Back on that Horse" (or Balance Beam)This blog on Triumph
wouldn't be complete without a nod to my youngest daughter, Brighten, aka
Beepster (short for Beautiful Princess Star). Let's just say, she is a
powerhouse, a mighty might and takes after her mom in the sense she’s driven and
doesn't give up easily.<br />
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first year of gymnastics and, although she's a novice, she's taken to it like a
fish to water. Not only does she have the perfect build—she's tiny with big
feet—she seems to have a knack for it, a passion and a love of all things
gymnastic. She’s winning lots of medals and just qualified for sectionals. Most
important, she’s having fun. Maybe she’s found her
calling...? I hope so.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">You know, seeing her
routine brings to mind a lesson on success I once heard that referred to the
“Three P’s of Success” … Passion, Practice and Persistence. These are the
essence of our diminutive daughter these days ... and anyone, I believe, who is
Triumphing at what they do.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Passionate (Brighten definitely is; she basically eats, sleeps and drinks gymnastics, and never seems to tire of it). Second, they Practice (no
joke, she spends more time upside down these days than she does right side up;
she’s constantly bouncing off the furniture, cartwheeling down the aisles,
etc.). Third, they’re Persistent (you’ll see in the video clip attached how
persistent she is, even when she falls, she bounces right back up). It’s an inspiring reminder for us
all.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">In gymnastics as in
life (or marriage, business, trials, etc.), we mustn't give up … even when it’s
hard. Other than those rare times when it’s just not in our power, we have to
“get back on that horse,” or, as it were in this case, on that "balance beam."<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I’m proud of you,
Tiny. You’re an inspiration to your old dad. We’re looking forward to the
college scholarships I’m sure you’ll earn (here's hoping). That only leaves four others we have
to be worried about.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Check out the clip.
Her form looks just about perfect to me, even in failure. You go baby-girl! <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5BcIvHtqm08"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: cyan;">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5BcIvHtqm08</span></a></span></div>The Triumph Timeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10256997292616226973noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8249756014286459134.post-27615493426067156712011-11-01T12:19:00.000-07:002011-11-01T14:10:59.389-07:00Inspiration From a Gifted Writer<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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As you know, I've highlighted a few different writers on this blog ... Faulkner, Hemingway, Hunter S. Thompson and so forth. I never cease to be amazed how talented some are, and where their passion, pathos and inspiration come from. It varies for all of us, of course, some positive, some not. Mine, personally, has come from multiple sources, people and lessons learned. Most recently, a friend of mine, Allie Hanley, an entertainment writer and film contributor in Seattle who writes for www.culturemob.com, was the last in a long list of influences that made me finally sit down and start writing this blog.<br />
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Among other things, Allie encouraged me to get off my hind-end and <i>just start</i> <i>writing</i> ... <i>something</i>, <i>anything!</i> "The key is to just write daily," she told me, "in a journal, on a blog, whatever: JUST WRITE!"<br />
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Well, I've been talking about it for years. I have a couple of "Next Great American Novels" struggling along, but not very quickly. I really have wanted to write and do want to get my voice out into cyberspace; so ... with Allie's prompting, and several good examples, I bit the bullet and did so. And you know? I am loving the challenge. Don't know what you think about it, but the hits I'm getting would suggest that people like the concept, and the content. I hope so. I am certainly enjoying the experience.<br />
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<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-MjUiNrB-VeA/TrBFJMy3ieI/AAAAAAAAAIM/0VmZlMS6INU/s1600/allienpark.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-MjUiNrB-VeA/TrBFJMy3ieI/AAAAAAAAAIM/0VmZlMS6INU/s200/allienpark.jpg" width="200" /></a>Thank you, Allie, for the kick in the caboose; thanks to all of you who've inspired me and taught me (my grandmother, author Lucile Tate, among others--she's a future blog post subject; Og Mandino, CS Lewis, Malcolm Gladwell.... the list is long and growing). Thank you all. I appreciate the push.<br />
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It's not Shakespeare, but I don't think it has to be. Thanks for reading....<br />
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JP River<br />
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Note: If you'd like to read some of Allie's awesome CultureMob articles, go to<a href="http://culturemob.com/author/alliehanley"> http://culturemob.com/author/alliehanley</a>The Triumph Timeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10256997292616226973noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8249756014286459134.post-75427049338989305782011-11-01T03:29:00.000-07:002011-11-04T01:25:46.973-07:00Questions, Comments, Suggestions, More....?<br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Question for you: what
principles, topics or stories would you like to see addressed on this blog?
I've already had several visits to the site, just in the first couple
of weeks, but very few comments or questions have been left. In my experience, this
is quite normal. Most people like reading anonymously and don't tend to write
or leave comments for a variety of reasons. I understand this. However ... I'm
sending this out to all of you: what do YOU want to hear, learn more about or
discuss...? What stories or subjects have you come across in your lives that
you would like to share or see addressed more on this site.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">If you would prefer to
contact me directly, rather than posting directly to the comments page, you're
welcome to do so at JPLTriumph@gmail.com. I look forward to your feedback.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">How are you liking the
site so far, anyway? Any suggestions, comments, concerns?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Thanks in advance and
"here's to Triumph...."<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Respectfully
~ JPR</span><span style="font-size: 13pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>The Triumph Timeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10256997292616226973noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8249756014286459134.post-39838632041133992602011-11-01T02:55:00.000-07:002011-11-04T08:41:28.271-07:00"Theirs a Problem With Youre Email" (sic)<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="308" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-YzEV-VdYHpw/Tq_B0z8Dw-I/AAAAAAAAAHU/DmCovxpnVHE/s320/Ad.jpg" width="320" /></span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">A lot of folks these
days are unemployed or <i>und</i>eremployed. We’re looking for new or better
jobs … for ways to “Triumph” more in our careers. It’s a tough market out there
and we need every bit of help we can find. Following is just that—an informative
help I received this morning from one of the newsletters to which I subscribe.
I found it both insightful and entertaining. If it helps you or you can pass it
along to someone who it does, I’ll be grateful. For many of us, if we’re not
Triumphing in our work or professional lives, it’s difficult to be able to
focus and do so in other areas as you know.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Mark Cenedella, CEO of
The Ladders, an online job search assistance service, wrote the following on
how to make your resumes and cover letters more effective. It agrees with my
recent comments on focusing on what’s important and on being more concise in
what we write. “Less is more” is usually true, as I keep saying. I continue to
try learning this myself.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Enjoy the lesson. It’s
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">SIMPLER IS SAFER, by
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">"A lot of the bad
e-mails I see aren't bad because the person writing them is unintelligent.
Quite the opposite. They are bad because an intelligent person is trying to say
too much, in too complicated a way, with too many words, in a bid to sound
qualified for the job.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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exactly the wrong approach. Because, in fact, what employers and hiring
managers are looking for is somebody who can communicate clearly and
effectively. Rarely do long, complicated words and complex sentences make you
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">And those longer, more
turgid e-mails have a much higher chance of a misspelling, grammar mistake, or
unclear meaning, than a simple e-mail.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">It reminds me of a
famous exchange between two Nobel Peace writers, William Faulkner (famous for
complex, dense prose) and Ernest Hemingway (who rarely used words greater than
two syllables): Faulkner: "Hemingway has never been known to use a
word that might send a reader to the dictionary." Hemingway:
"Poor Faulkner! Does he really think big emotions come from big
words?" <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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get a job, simple, clear communication is far more effective than big
five-dollar words.</div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">As an example, which
of these two people would you rather hire?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Sally Simple writes,
"I work well with teams that might not necessarily like each other in
order to get them to understand the other side's viewpoint. I like to use a bit
of humor so that we can all work well together and be successful as a
company."<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">While Terry Turgid
elucidates, "My background indicates a capability to bring together
disparate elements of the organizational structure in which inherent tensions
arise due to the substance of the work output, the cross-utilization of
organizational resources, and competition for allocations and prioritizations
that occur as a result. And I try to always be ready with a quip or bon mot in
order to enable those elements to optimize their effort co-ordination and
process implementation in order to achieve synergistic outcomes on behalf of
the global organization."<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Now both of those say
the same thing (I think), but which candidate would you put in charge of
getting sales and marketing to work together? Or leading the product and
logistics groups on an important new initiative?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I'll take Sally Simple
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Marc Cenedella, CEO
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">TheLadders.com is a private United States-based
company providing an online job search service. It launched listing only
vetted job offers with annual salaries of $100,000 or more. On 19 September
2011 they removed the $100k minimum salary requirement, opening the site to
jobseekers who didn't meet the previous experience/value qualification. Unlike
other employment sites that charge companies to post entries, TheLadders.com
charges both job seekers and employers for their listings, and states that they
confirm the authenticity and quality of each listing on the site.</span></div>
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I'm going to write (at least not often) on Saturdays or Sundays. Everybody
needs a day off and I have five busy children who need my attention at
gymnastics and soccer and so forth when I'm actually in town. They like having
me <i>present</i> and I think that five days a week is probably enough writing.
So, I'm writing to say I'm <u>not</u> going to be writing, at least not on the
weekends, at least not until or unless I feel duly impressed that something
just has to be said and cannot wait until the coming Monday.<br />
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to "break with tradition" and write on the weekend, sharing with you a quick insight
that came to me this afternoon. It's about responsibility</span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">—</span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I guess because I spent most of the day
with my children and was reminded how much responsibility I have to them and we
all have to those we have stewardship over and responsibility for. Whether
that's your kids, your partner, your employees or whoever ... a big part of
leading a "Triumphant" life is being a “pattern of Triumph” that
others can learn from … of doing what it takes to make a difference in <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">others’ </i>lives. Only then have we truly
Triumphed, at least in this "Umpher's" opinion.</span></div>
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that no one can ever, truly say they've Triumphed without having
helped a few others along the way, and oftentimes many ... in business, marriage, parenthood, entertainment, innovation, education, or what have you. TRIUMPH, by its very nature, adds
to and amplifies the lives of those it touches. We Triumph most when WE touch one
another (and I'm not talking foot rubs or bear hugs). You know what I'm getting at.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">The following ad from
Liberty Mutual Insurance is an effective reminder of this truth. I get
emotional almost every time I see it. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Hey, have a nice
weekend, everybody. It's already half-way over but I'm still going to enjoy the
rest thoroughly. I hope you do too. Don't forget to watch the clip.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<br />The Triumph Timeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10256997292616226973noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8249756014286459134.post-80134086358004397922011-10-29T01:03:00.000-07:002011-11-04T08:39:09.267-07:00A Lost Boy and a Joint Rescue Effort<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-_Ej8Z0ZkcUU/TquwgsD_gPI/AAAAAAAAAFs/czb89QwdlRA/s1600/t1larg.robert.wood.found.wtvr.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; display: inline !important; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: left;"><img border="0" height="225" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-_Ej8Z0ZkcUU/TquwgsD_gPI/AAAAAAAAAFs/czb89QwdlRA/s400/t1larg.robert.wood.found.wtvr.jpg" width="400" /></a><span style="font-family: Calibri;">It’s late and I got
home a short while ago from watching a great sci-fi movie called “In Time”
tonight, starring Justin Timberlake and Amanda Seyfried. It’s a futuristic film
about how the rich have unlimited “time accounts” and the poor "run out of
time" at the age of 25, or (usually) go on to live day-to-day trying to
make their last few hours stretch. It was a new twist on the old dilemma of
and juxtaposition between the incredibly wealthy and all the rest of us.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">There are lots of
reasons for mentioning this concept in this blog … “using our time well,” “not
wasting a minute,” “choosing wisely where we focus our time and efforts” (all
good Triumph principles), etc., etc. It wasn’t what I would call a terribly
uplifting movie, but it was entertaining. I actualliy want to write on another
topic, though, tonight, a story I just saw on CNN tonight.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">As you’re seeing, if
you’re following this blog at all, there isn’t a specific format or outline
that I’m following in my posts. Quotes, historical figures, current events,
movie reviews—they’re all options. Anything that strengthens, motivates,
encourages or inspires is fair game. One thing’s for certain: I have an
unlimited number of topics to choose from and discuss. (The only thing I’m
hoping for is that more of you start commenting; as much as I like talking, I
don’t like feeling I’m the only voice being heard).<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-OgqQ2jgEQ8g/Tqu3Tzja35I/AAAAAAAAAF0/ZbccfPTp0Ng/s1600/creek_bed.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="258" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-OgqQ2jgEQ8g/Tqu3Tzja35I/AAAAAAAAAF0/ZbccfPTp0Ng/s400/creek_bed.jpg" width="400" /></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 26px;"></span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Take this story from
CNN.com that I stumbled across this evening—speaking of racing against time. This
young autistic boy was just found, having survived five days lost in a Civil
War park in Central Virginia (North Anna Battlefield Park). He was found alive this
afternoon at a nearby quarry, authorities said, “lying in a fetal position in a
creek bed about a mile away from where he'd wandered off.” He was flown by
helicopter to a nearby hospital, where he was reunited with family and
“appeared to be in good shape.” Get this: the boy is autistic … non-verbal …
went five days without food or shelter. It’s a wonder he was fine. He is
obviously a fighter, an “Umpher,” as we call them on this blog, even if he
can’t speak or write or get up and give a speech about it personally.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">The most Triumphant
part of this story, despite the boy’s personal sacrifice and effort, in my
opinion, lies in the fact that about 6,000 VOLUNTEERS showed up and helped out
with the search over the last 5 days, along with “about 300 professional
searchers in the park and surrounding areas, Hanover County authorities said”
(quoted from CNN.com). They literally had to turn volunteers away, not because
they didn’t want them, but because they couldn’t support them all. This is
another great reminder regarding Triumphant results. We all know this but it’s
good to have another example...! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-4JJb3ZmJcVw/Tqw0uukzVDI/AAAAAAAAAGg/bMpKTCxrbFE/s1600/brazil3.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-4JJb3ZmJcVw/Tqw0uukzVDI/AAAAAAAAAGg/bMpKTCxrbFE/s320/brazil3.jpg" width="320" /></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 26px;"></span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Often times, for us to
Triumph personally, we need a helping hand to make it come to pass. This little
boy was lost; a lot of us feel the same way in life. He was "hungry, cold
and thirsty;" I think so many of us can relate—in our relationships, our
careers, or our financial prospects, and more. I personally have, on many
occasions throughout my life, felt this way. Literally or metaphorically, we
find ourselves in need of being warmed or filled at times. In my
experience, I have often been helped, assisted and “filled” by strangers who
often never even knew the role they played. Other times it was
the direct result of a friend or loved one reaching out. Both were very much appreciated.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I’m grateful for their
help and I'm sure many of us can relate. We've all given and received help,
both intentional and not. It's one of the beautiful things that keeps
this world of ours going around. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Let me just end by
just saying that, whether you’re the contributor
or the beneficiary, </span>the “filler” or the “fillee,” as it were, it’s valued. We’re all in this together. And, if we
look for ways to help each other out even more, to accept help when it’s
offered, to work together and be there for each other, we will
never regret it. It is absolutely a key to helping all of us Triumph here in
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I hope we’ll all look
for more ways to make this a high-frequency occurrence. Best wishes to Robert
Wood Jr. and his family. Your son inspires us, as do the thousands of
volunteers who came to your aid. We’re grateful for your story … and the
way that it turned out.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Welcome
home, Robert.... John Patrick “River” Laing</span><span style="font-size: 15pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>The Triumph Timeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10256997292616226973noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8249756014286459134.post-84723961502597772142011-10-28T01:18:00.000-07:002011-10-28T01:25:36.762-07:00Question For You: Who's Your Idol?So ... I've shared a
few of my idols with you, including Winston Churchill, JFK, Albert Enstein, and
my Grandpa Bill. Who are your idols? Who do you look up to...? Come on faceless
readers? I've had 300+ visitors in just these first couple weeks (a few repeat
offenders, I'm sure). Who do you aspire to be more like...?<br />
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COMMENTS BELOW.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I look forward to hearing your insights. Good
night. :0]</span></div>The Triumph Timeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10256997292616226973noreply@blogger.com1